eharmony and match.com, does it work?

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Going on a date tomorrow with a guy I met on POF. Public place, of course.

I've tried online dating with no success. The problem with services like Match and eHarmony is that there's no way, at least that I've found, to filter paying and non paying customers. If I see someone with a cool profile, I can send them a message, but if they're not a paid subscriber, they will not be able to respond. You can spend a lot of time searching and reading numerous profiles and spend time writing clever first messages, but if the person you're sending to is not a paid member, they won't be able to respond.

At least that's what I tell myself when I never get replies

Those can definitely work for some people......my brother met his wife through Yahoo personals, and one of my friends met her boyfriend through a dating site. (as far as I know, they're still together)

Don't waste your time on dating websites.
If you're looking for a hot date, try Craig's List.

Ha! I found this to be amusing: http://matadornetwork.com/life/how-not- ... raigslist/

I have been on all the major dating sites,, I find online dating extremely frustrating,, most people are not local to you and there are TONS of scammers,, I haven't had any success on any of them, however Ive learned more how to interact with NTS from chat,, Seven years experience in online dating and I find the majority of people have some kind of major issue,, beware and keep emotions out of things for a while.

Eharm is a scam,, they send you fake contacts to get you to join up.. and I was considered unmatchable and I didn't even mention autism. Match I was on a few time, not a lot of success but they seem to have some real life social events which is a good thing.

I think generally dating sites are not a good thing for aspies, between the scammers, pervs.window shoppers,, and the fact that most are located way to far away, its not an aspie friendly environment.

I actuary put aspie in my profile on my main chat site,, figured I might as well be up front about it,, and guess what, I met an aspie on an NT site,, hes up in wa and im in fla which is an issue but time will tell. I would be up front, yes ur gonna get tons of rejections but better to get those out of the way and find people that either are aspie or will accept you for who you are. Im also in contact with a guy from here,, I would think being more active in oneline and local asperger and autsim groups would be more productive then online dating.

In my opinion all dating sites are the same, except some you pay for an other you don't. eHarmony is probably the most expensive of the dating sites out there and I was less than impressed during the single month I paid for the site.

They have this fancy system of easing into conversations with people, which does not work at all. In fact, I wish I tried direct communication to see if it would've worked better.

The dating site I've actually had the most success with was POF, even though the quality of the site has degraded greatly over the last few years (as they added more and more premium features).

I quite like the format of OKCupid, however my replies are few and far between and I've only ever met one person from that site (two years ago).

I've been on OKCupid the longest even though I had less-than-satisfactory results. I've been on it for 3 maybe 4 years and no matter how many messages I send to different girls, I RARELY ever get a response, yet I stuck with it because it was the only free dating site I found interesting.

I just got out of a hellish relationship from someone somewhat local I met off of OKCupid. She was far too clingy and never stopped texting me at work with 'I love you' messages. I have been so disgusted with this relationship as well as other people I met off the site, that I shut my profile down and never wanted to do that again. I honestly believe I would have better luck and a better relationship from someone I meet in real life.

I tried Eharmony several times and it sure didn't work. Kept getting sized up and nothing really went anywhere. I felt like canned goods at a grocery store that never got picked up despite it being a busy day. So in the end I don't think its worth the money.

That's pretty much a given for anybody who has any kind of significant difficulties including anxiety and depression and at least the founder of eHarmony is pretty unapologetic about it.