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Have you ever been in love?
Yes- definitely 47%  47%  [ 27 ]
I think so 12%  12%  [ 7 ]
I don't think so 41%  41%  [ 24 ]
Total votes : 58

LaPelirroja
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07 Apr 2013, 5:37 am

I'm a romantic at heart. I cried at the end of Titanic. I love a good love song (but nothing too treacly, like R&B).

But I'm 22 and I've never been in love.

Never. Not once. Not even crushes (okay, maybe one or two). I've never longed for another person like that. I don't know what it feels like. It's come to the point that I'm actually a little tired of all the songs about relationships- can't people sing about ANYthing else?

Am I the only one here?



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07 Apr 2013, 5:46 am

why, what is it that keeps you from falling in love?



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07 Apr 2013, 7:09 am

I've been mildly attracted to people, but I wouldn't say I "was in love", because my definition for the latter requires major emotional involvement.

A few years ago, a girl who I was "mildly attracted to" moved away across the country, so I didn't see her for a couple of months. When I met her again, I was really happy, so it's possible to say that for half a day, I had a crush on her.

Otherwise, no, so I'm voting "no".

LaPelirroja wrote:
I love a good love song (but nothing too treacly, like R&B).

Me too. :) Like http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpNUDLsAOvY.
I don't think of any person when I listen to it, but I like the atmosphere.



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07 Apr 2013, 7:22 am

I can't say I have ever been in love. I am only mildly Asperger's so it actually should be a little easier for me. I do want to have children, wish to raise a family. The problem is, there isn't one. That and I am only 19. I've got a lot of time ahead of me to become the man I will become.



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07 Apr 2013, 7:27 am

appletheclown wrote:
I can't say I have ever been in love. I am only mildly Asperger's so it actually should be a little easier for me. I do want to have children, wish to raise a family. The problem is, there isn't one. That and I am only 19. I've got a lot of time ahead of me to become the man I will become.


you're only 19. there is a lot to come your way ;P



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07 Apr 2013, 9:22 am

For some reason it is rare for me to have a crush on someone or fall in love.
For me I need to feel some connection first and it happens maybe once per year. The few times I had a girlfriend it did not work out.

I would like to have someone to talk to and I even would want to raise a few children, but it will take a lot of effort.



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07 Apr 2013, 9:28 am

Asterisp wrote:
For some reason it is rare for me to have a crush on someone or fall in love.
For me I need to feel some connection first and it happens maybe once per year. The few times I had a girlfriend it did not work out.

I would like to have someone to talk to and I even would want to raise a few children, but it will take a lot of effort.


for what reasons would you like children?



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07 Apr 2013, 9:44 am

I've been in love, though sadly it was unrequited



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07 Apr 2013, 10:49 am

Never, because unlike those who bury their heads in sand I know it's BS.


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07 Apr 2013, 11:08 am

BooToMostStuff wrote:
Never, because unlike those who bury their heads in sand I know it's BS.


No it´s the most amazing feeling in the world. I would love to fall in love again soon :heart:



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07 Apr 2013, 12:07 pm

Yes, but only once.




Romantic songs that should tell what love is about. I don't think there's much saying it more clear than music...

Elvis:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1UXwHDuVKU[/youtube]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ij1AahFU2Ys[/youtube]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o126OwOzViI[/youtube]


And some by Dean:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UxVdjw0Gm8I[/youtube]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkWhkKVvqHU[/youtube]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXFoOYxMnvg[/youtube]



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07 Apr 2013, 12:23 pm

Yes... At least I think I was in love. I hardly knew her. I just fell in love with her the first time I talk to her in French class. I think it was the way she spoke to me. Being extremely shy and introverted I never got to know her any better. And after a year or so my feelings faded.

After that, I have never been in love with anyone.



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07 Apr 2013, 12:28 pm

LaPelirroja wrote:
I'm a romantic at heart. I cried at the end of Titanic. I love a good love song (but nothing too treacly, like R&B).

But I'm 22 and I've never been in love.



I suppose you haven't met another aspie being a romantic at heart the same way you are? I didn't think I could fall in love either - it's because it's so much more rare to meet someone with a mentality similar to yours when you are aspie...we are a minority.

It doesn't sound coherent that you are romantic at heart and cannot fall in love. Being aspie it's not unlikely you haven't met someone you could actually fall in love with.



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07 Apr 2013, 12:42 pm

I'm in the same boat as you LaPelirroja. I have never been in love and i can't really say i miss it. Maybe it's because i have never met a female who i connected to? I don't know...



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07 Apr 2013, 12:57 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
BooToMostStuff wrote:
Never, because unlike those who bury their heads in sand I know it's BS.


No it´s the most amazing feeling in the world. I would love to fall in love again soon :heart:


yeah, sure, I'll stick with reality.


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08 Apr 2013, 12:54 pm

yes, but then I got a reality-check and got a wakeup call by getting my heart crushed. but... I'll do it again, and again and again :wall: