Deal-breakers for men?

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Uwmonkdm,^^^^^This is a first,a man complaining of getting too much
Not trying to make too much fun of your exploits,it's just most men dream of too much.
Sorry about any bad experiences you had to deal with.

Maybe Fnord just loves her so much he is oblivious to any flaws she may have.
Love is suppose to be blind, but it does sound like he hit the jackpot.

Contextual information, I date people of all genders, if a deal breaker is specific to a gender then I will specify, if I do not specify it's safe to assume it's a universal criteria.

For me deal breakers would be -
People who take illegal drugs, or drink alcohol excessively (which for me, is getting drunk more than twice a month)
People who smoke
Women with large breasts
Men with large penis'
People with displeasing body odour (I enjoy some body odour, but after a point it's just gross)
People who bad breath
People over 6ft (I'm extremely short, this is a practical requirement, I don't have the motor control to tiptoe every time I want to kiss)
People who grew up in a wealthy and privileged situation (e.g. parents earning £500,000+ a year, and sent to private school) who refuse to acknowledge that it's an advantage they hold over people who haven't been so privileged
People who are classist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, bi-phobic, or ableist
People who's breath smells of coffee (I hate the smell of coffee)
People who don't read, unless that have a condition that makes reading very hard for them (e.g. dyslexia)
People who play their music loudly on buses
People who want to have children
People who have children who live with them (I would be fine with people who live separately from their children provided I do not have to take on a parental role)
People who have a blanket hate over all feminists
Women who are radical feminists (even if they are trans-inclusionary radical feminists)
People who see science subjects as inherently superior
People who make ad hoc arguments during debates
People who think film cannot be an art form
People who belief that ADHD is just a sign of 'lack of disciple', depression is just 'a bad attitude' etc. etc.
People who imply that mean people must have been abused as a child as an insult to the mean person (as a person who was abused as a child this kind of 'comebacks' have made a significant dent in my self-esteem, and they're just not funny)
Militant vegans
People who make derogatory comments about women who have bodily hair
People who make derogatory comments about men who display strong emotions
People who expect me to understand their non-verbal communication
People who get angry at me for stuff I did in their dreams (happened enough with an ex of mine that it's made a list of things I hate!)
People who talk about the sex they have with they partner without their partner's express permission
People who dislike cats, snakes or birds
People who cannot appreciate my sense of humour (it's fair enough not to, I just don't think it would work with someone who didn't)
Men who shave or wax their chest
Women who shave or wax their pubic hair
People who expect me to always pay for outings
People who expect me to exchange gifts on birthdays, valentines and Christmas (I just don't. I don't want any in return either)
People who want lots of romantic gestures, like chocolates and flowers
People who cannot accept criticism
People with high sex drives
People who are sexually submissive (I'm not at all sexually dominant so nothing would ever happen between us)
Narcissists
Mentally ill people who aren't taking any steps to manage their conditions (e.g. being schizophrenic but refusing medications etc)
People who have negative attitudes towards all video games (e.g. they're a waste of time, they're stupid etc. etc.)
Biblical literalists

I'm sure there's more, but this is the main stuff. I feel some people may say that I'm picky, but I agree with Fnord on this one, it's important to know what you desire from a partner and to know what is non-negotiable for you.

I have a partner who I've been with for almost three years now, so this list is workings pretty well for me at the moment.

Please try to avoid provoking other members, you can do better than this and its against the rules

I maintain only three deal breakers

Ugly
Boring
Needy

Smoking is my biggest dealbreaker, it wouldn't be fair to ask her not to smoke around me whenever/before we saw each other constantly as I'd be trying to change her. Cheating in previous relationships also would be a dealbreaker, I take trust seriously, I appreciate mistakes can be made but with cheating, it seems to be easy (I've never cheated) for someone to keep doing it if they've done it once.