Any aspies enjoy skin contact? (be apropriate)

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I can't post what I would like. But in all seriousness I'm ok with hugging and other appropriate forms of touching.

It's fine with certain people; I'll hold my baby sister's hand without a second thought but most anything else bothers me severely.

Human contact profoundly disturbs me. I haven't even kissed my own mother in over 10 years (seeing as that is over half my lifespan, that is a really long time).

Yes, I'm a very tactile person, and, under the right circumstances, can be very much a touch-monkey. It's a thrilling comfort - perilous and reassuring, all at once. When it happens, it can and will cause sensory overload, but I've learned to control and direct that feeling, to float on it, drift with it, surrender to it utterly.

Bliss is terrifying.

Certainly NOT when it's done by my dad or grandma!

I love it.

I don't like stranger hugs,or having to set next to a stranger that's touching me,ugh.
My ex use to give me these squeezes on the arm and they hurt.So does a neck massage,but with the right person kisses on the neck,oh God,bliss.Or being held close and cuddles.That's awesome.And sleeping really close with someone you love,unless the AC or fan isn't on and it's too hot.Then please stay on your side of the bed.

It's fine when my friends and family members do it to me. I don't care if I receive hugs from them or hold their hands and such, but I don't do much physical contact with strangers, except maybe handshakes.

The two times a girl my age hugged me intently and forcefully (i.e. not putting their hands on my shoulders to prevent me from dragging them too close to me, which was the usual thing, but rather pressing their bodies against mine), I felt like I was in heaven. And yes, I said girl because they were girls at that time. Now I’d call them women.

Light touching...it can be ok, but sometimes not. Anything rough (including hugs) or violent...definitely.

My aspie BF does seem to be comfortable with me, but otherwise, he does not like being touched. Which is awkward for him, because he has a lot of girls at his school that take a liking to him and love hugging him and clinging to him and what not. He really, really does not like that, but he doesn't say anything.

Took a few dates before he even gave me a hug, but after awhile, he enjoyed it. He doesn't particularly enjoy kissing or cuddling, but he doesn't actively dislike it, he's just indifferent to it. If it was up to him he wouldn't cuddle, but he insists upon it because he knows I enjoy it.

He does occasionally get sensory overload though, and just needs to be left alone for awhile, because he's completely exhausted by it. Upset me the first time it happened to him, but once I saw him fall asleep a few minutes after, I really realized how tiring physical contact can be for him.

I've heard from a lot of people, and also rings true with my guy, that they prefer strong physical affection, like really firm, powerful hugs or firm massages over light touches.
My BF loves getting scratched hard all over his back and arms. Honestly, it reminds me a dog sometimes how much he enjoys having his back scratched.

He also has to really try not to take the wind out of me when he gives me one of his ribcrushing bear hugs.

Depends who it is, has to be a girl I like for me to tolerate it.