Nerds Aren’t Sexy

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I have been thinking about this as well. I spoke to my counselor yesterday about this and being yourself. What she said is very enlightening. We can be ourselves but only to certain extents. It is not iron clad and absolute. What I was told is I have to compromise. There are certain parts of my self I can never be in the workplace. For example, if I was a punk rocker would I be able to wear long, spiked pink hair to the job and the job interview. More than likely the answer is no. I would have to give that up and look the part for the interview. Any slang involved has to be turned off and one needs to learn business English and etiquette.

On the other hand, nothing says one can't listen to punk rock music while in your off time or use its slang. Balance is the key I believe.

"Nerds" have a bad habit of thinking that they are smart and everyone else is dumb, so they have a competitive advantage with non-shallow women. Automatically, when women don't show interest, they are filed into the "shallow" category. This is a fallacy.

Not all self-described "nerds" do this, of course. I've personally seen it most often expressed in gamer/p&p circles. The problem with this line of thinking is that you probably aren't that smart. I don't mean to label anyone as stupid. Compared to the average population, however, there are a great deal of very handsome, very smart men, who have the ability to be charming. Nerds often have above average IQ in purely academic tests, but often times come up short in social or emotional intelligence. When a girl can have a man of above average intelligence and above average looks, why should she go out of her way to find a guy with only above average intelligence?

So, yeah, nerds aren't sexy. Urkel isn't stirring the loins of any women, and neither is Cartman, or Sheldon Cooper (At least if they met him in real life). However, they can be. I'm working on this right now. Lose weight, put on some muscle, read a fashion magazine or two, get a haircut and shave regularly. Even better, go out into the world on a semi-regular basis and talk with people. You'll learn to get past the Asperger's social tripups, and might even develop a quirky or awkward charm.

I am odd when it comes to my social problems. I have not a single social inhibition when it comes to self-disclosure. This might sound great, until you realize that means I will say ANYTHING that comes to mind, without considering consequences first. I don't fully understand the concept of rudeness (in the sense of why cetain behaviors and statements are considered rude). Most of my awkwardness is in physical interaction with other people, not verbal interaction. I feel better at home, where people know I have troubles, rather than out and about. People usually can't tell I am autistic, so they end up thinking I am a mean and inconsiderate person. People that are told I am autistic expect shyness and speaking issues, neither of which apply to me.

My family is okay for sure, but it is just when residing at home, I have more problems fitting in when out of the house, whereas if I am in an apartment, or dorm, I make friends relatively quickly.

While I understand and agree with this, it is pretty dangerous to confuse changes you have to make to adapt to a workplace with acceptable changes in developing a relationship. Sure, I should not point out to my boss that Captain Kirk would have handled a certain situation better, or for some reason I can't fathom wear my "Welcome to Camp Crystal Lake" id badge, and that is acceptable because my job is 48 hours of the 168 hours I have in a week. If I had to watch every word and action there, that's doable. But if I have to go home and do the same, have to keep my massive collection of Sci-fi books, force myself to not speak in movie lines when I get stressed, dress a certain way all the time, and pretend to be someone I'm not at home, then I am better off alone. It would be better to go home alone every day and be able to relax and be yourself than to have to use your commute to get into "character" for your significant other.

My little brother took out his anger at his failure at 5th grade math out on me by saying you are a ret*d and you have ass burgers. He also claimed, because he watched an online doc on apserger's he was an instant expert, and claimed because of it he had the right to verbally abuse me. I will say because he is a little brat, and has problems of his own, he may just be taking it out on me, but that is no reason to do what he did. I hate to think what he will think of me when I have invented some invention, or become able to raise children. I doubt he will have much to say, even if his martial arts stuff turns him into a good fighter. Sometimes I think he has asperger's himself, boy would he have some apologizing to do, heheheh.... (he never likes to get touched, wiggles his hands, concentrates on stupid stuff like I did, and goes off and is lonely like I did when I was his age, huh I wonder...).

That was my point. There is no point to having a relationship like that, IMO. It isn't one. It's a role.

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Thank you!

Oh, and by the way, 0.001% of 3.9 billions is 35000.

It's actually 39000.

Not a so good numbers game either way .

Or a bad typist. Never assume what exactly went wrong, just that something did.

Then are most of us just considered social rejects? What is the stereotypical look for that?

On a random side note, Boo, I think I saw your Facebook and it made me envious of the places you've been to.

If there were mirrors around, he probably missed the views because he is too narcissistic to look away from his own reflection.

Who is?

The Face of Boo

Do autistic people who stare at mirrors consider it a stim? I know some do with water.