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What a kind and profound thing to say to someone you don't even know....

Thank you.

I don't have pros or cons. I'm professionally weird and remaining as such until you and your cronies wake up.
I would honestly consider it today (not really an ordinary day) if I weren't probably your ideal guy. You know, able to bring down whole sites for as long as it takes for your feuding to blow over, or forcibly change your account handles at the drop of a hat.

name:Sarah
gender: female
status:lacks empathy.
and perception.

+1!! !

Name: Aaron the almighty, invincible slayer of superclusters!
Gender: D00de
Good qualities: ...I build/ compose Sh*t... errr.... creative... hell... I suck at these!
Not-so-good Qualities: Spiteful of everyone, paranoid, a kleptomaniac, plain crazy....
F*** dating im just gonna chill w/ mah bois and play MTG!! !!

Last edited by Relicanth7 on 26 Jul 2013, 12:26 am, edited 1 time in total.

Good traits: Most of the time, I can be Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean, and Reverent.

Bad Traits: Sometimes, I am not so Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean, or Reverent.

Reasons Not to Date Me:
I have a huge amount of difficulty expressing genuine affection just for the sake of it.
I'm extremely indecisive and flaky.
I can get very complacent and reliant on others.
I often take those closest to me for granted and neglect relationships.
I tend to be a sore loser.
Perfectionism and procrastination run rampant in my life...
... unless it's cleaning and doing basic household chores, in which case, you can probably safely scratch the "perfectionist" part.
My indifference and detachedness can be highly off-putting.
My career path will not have me raking in money or saving lives, and my success in my field may depend on just how delusional and self-centered I can manage to be.

Do they "constantly complain" though? I mean you make it sound like everyone just whines about their issues. Maybe they are discussing their issues or making an attempt to solve them - that's not whining that's a step towards doing something about it.

Is it "all on them" if someone they dated decided to be an ass? There is room for other people that come into your life to screw up and they often do. It's not just people with an ASD that have flaws that stop them getting into relationships. If people are mature enough not to hold it against them for all eternity then I don't see a reason to fault them for trying to solve their issues.

That said I can understand what you mean about people having an issue or two that stops them getting into a relationship that they need to solve. It's only the part about people trying to solve their issues being whining and it being all on them that I disagree with.

I lost the point in laying my problems out here before I really began. We're all here to help.

You left out pretentious.

Mine:

Good

When I do get complimented it's usually about my eyes - nice eyes I guess
I'm ostensibly calm (lack of expression), which makes people think Imma pretty chill guy
People find me strangely likeable
I pursue quite a few hobbies - Guitar, Genealogy, Genetics (biology), Programming and others
Nice deep down, but not as nice as I want to be
Morally conscious, and an overwhelming sense of compunction over any wrongdoing
I do voluntary work
I like listing things
A few girls have called me "pretty"

Bad

I like winding people up
I'm highly irritable
I'm highly anxious
I'm not a calm person
I can be very judgemental
My stimming is very severe
I oscillate with my political and personal views
I'm very negative about the way society is and the future
Hypochondriac regarding my health
I can be quite nasty
My sense of humour is self-involved, (I tell jokes to amuse myself)

Good:
Apparently pretty attractive, judging by frequent comments to that effect
Above average intelligence
Easy-going about most things
A variety of interests and conversant on many topics
Really really good cook
Strong convictions about some issues
Spend a lot of time reflecting on my issues with myself and others and trying to be better
High pain tolerance (good I guess??)
Sexually skilled/experienced
Kind to vulnerable people/animals
Reasonably athletic and stronger than I look
Good mom
Creative and talented in a lot of ways

Bad:
Not very healthy
Kind of flaky/not conscientious
Very poor time management and executive function
Lots of trouble deciding what to do with my life and sticking to it
Haven't held down any job for more than 6 months, or had one at all in 9 years
Coping badly with lots of past traumas (= lots of baggage)
Drug abuse
Can be unintentionally insensitive in conversations
Socially inept and not good at making real friends
Sometimes selfish verging on manipulative
Scared of conflict so avoidant and passive-aggressive in turns

I see I'm not the only lapsed scout around...

Okay PsychoSarah, I'll join in.

Good qualities:
I'm very honest.
I'm loyal.
I'm a little bit smarter than the average bear.
I have a strange sense of humor (cartoony with a little wit and sarcasm at times).
I am very compassionate when I think things out in a situation.
I can feel empathy and some sympathy.
I'm not a party person, nor gregarious.
Many tell me that I'm a very sweet and kind person.
I am driven to a goal career-wise.
I am very sensitive and wear my heart on my sleeve (metaphorically - otherwise, that would be strange, wouldn't it?).
I'm quite polite.

Bad qualities:
I am either sad, angry or nervous most of the time.
I am dirt poor and on working disability even though I have held the same part time job for 5.5 years.
I have an extremely bad temper that would even make Beethoven run for the hills. It has improved though, especially last year.
I cannot socialize past common conversation, and dating "rituals" are completely confusing to me at all levels.
I can be selfish at times, due to not thinking out the whole situation so that everyone wins out at the end.
It is often that I say something inappropriate or hurt someone's feelings even when I don't mean it or mean it the opposite way (as a compliment).
I tend to be lethargic and lazy about things I don't like to do, but if motivated, I can do them.
I CANNOT balance a checkbook under any circumstances, even though I'm decent at math.
It might take a few times to understand what someone tells me, due to an auditory processing problem I have.
It takes me a long time to decide on anything.
I can be quite stubborn.
I HATE confrontations.
I do have a paranoid streak, but that has improved in the last year too.

So there you have it. The grade I give myself is a C minus - needs a lot of improvement, but don't give up; one can be better if one recognizes and gets help to fix his or her flaws.