Worst thing the opposite gender has ever told you about you?

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"You're just not attractive." "You complain too much."

Those were from two different guys not one but um.. yeah.. I didn't have much of a self esteem before those comments anyway so why not make me feel worse right?

I got called an airhead by a female classmate in high school, that was about the worst thing imaginable anyone could ever have said to me, considering what the word means. Maybe she was spewing out what she thought of herself and it got aimed at me.

Gosh, and I thought only boys could say harsh things.

"At least you're beautiful, because you've got nothing else going for you."

Probably doesn't sound that bad, but it hurt.

"you know you just can't do anything right I mean absolutely nothing right I really got cheated when I married you"
from my husband.

That's horrible. How could he say something like that to you?

Here's one of many:

"You smell like my boyfriend" - a 19 year old female coworker, who had a boyfriend at the time after giving me a friendly hug said that to me at work. I was 38 then. I didn't know how to react; but I was thankful that she didn't say anything worse.

Oh I don't know, I most often don't care about other people their opinions. I remember one girl at high school though. Standing near the stairs and a girl says to me ''you are ugly''. (I knew her, but a tiny little bit) It was so out of the blue, almost even random. I do remember my first thoughts.. she means it! It was from the bottom of her heart haha. I didn't how to respond and eventually just walked away

And of course the usual things, like being turned down by the love of my youth. Gosh, she is so beautiful and nice and and hehe..
But we were friends back in those days! So it wasn't harsh at all, at Facebook (yeah I know..) we have decent conversations going on, after all those years! So I guess that's more positive than negative

That I was a creepy pig who is going to die alone and that you should kill your self. That was the closest I ever came to hitting a woman.

I've been called a lot of mean things over the years (witch, freak, etc.), but one guy came up to me and said I had a seriously bad personality (actually I was a little less insulted since he told me to my face and not behind my back).

and he wonders why I'm having a hard time connecting to him....

In my case, I've never been the recipient of any outright mean comments from women. I've been rejected countless times, but always with kindness.

But the toughest thing I heard, was recently when on a sorta date with a might-be-more-than-a-friend, we started getting candid about mental illness in our families, and in response I talked about autism in my family and how I was mildly autistic myself.

She nodded and said she had noticed things about me that were different and a little "off."

Again, she was very kind, and I know she meant no harm. But it was hard for me, because it finally confirmed a great fear and insecurity of mine, that no matter how hard I try to pass for normal in a public setting, no matter how hard I try to make myself into a more outgoing, charming, charismatic person, the sort of person a woman WOULD want, it will do no good because my Aspie-ness will always find a way to sneak out in ways I can control or even perceive. So it revealed to me that there wasn't much hope of me trying to remake myself or conform in the hopes of finding someone.

And with that illusion shattered, I've been trying to move on to a different place in my life....I'm giving up on dating or finding anyone, and focusing now on my work, on finding lasting meaning through it, and accomplishing something great to give to the world. And just learning to love being alone. Because I just probably won't ever find someone who'll accept or tolerate damaged goods like me.

The good news is that no woman has ever told me anything negative about myself.

The bad news is that in order for a woman to tell me anything negative about myself, she would have to be talking to me to begin with which just doesn't happen.

"Your mind is like a girl [sic]!"

"There's nothing really there. There just isn't a lot to you"

"Why can't you be like [insert cool guy's name here]?"