Why do girls hate shy guys?

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Please... stop...

I honestly believe you are trying to hold a spirited debate, but don't realize the impact you are having... At first I thought you were a troll, but as I have tracked your posts back through the months, I believe that you actually think you are all that you claim to be and that you know as much as you think, but HONESTLY, I have never seen so many offensive things unwittingly and unintentionally said in such a short time to so many different people...

Communication and social ability are skills... I beseech you to find an NT to sit down and read these threads with you and give you a crash course in both of these skills... I don't think you mean to be this backwards, misogynistic, rude, unwittingly hateful, and prejudiced... but this is how you come across...

If I am wrong, and this is intentional, by all means, please carry on... but... dayam

what other definition does it have are you trans? I dont mean to impose on your privacy so feel free to ignore. It is very odd for a woman who looks ok, to not get hit on by guys...and im giving you the benefit of the doubt that you arent getting hit on..otherwise your begrudging of not having a partner isnt warranted because you are being picky which isnt the same as other guys.

No one wants to date someone with a bad attitude.

Even if it is a vicious cycle of "... >>> Dateless >>> Bad Attitude >>> Dateless >>> Bad Attitude >>> ...", you can't expect anyone to want to date you until YOU change YOUR attitude.

Stop blaming others. It's YOUR fault.

im free to say what i want, if you look at what isay through a negative pov that is on you. I actually have pretty good social skills i just never get out. I am not being rude to anyone here..i am stating my opinions which i have a right to do. I come to this forum bc im too nice in real life and never say what itruly want.

noone wants to have a good attitude when noone wants to date them...and for the record ive had some girls want to date me i just wasnt attracted to them.


btw your post is garbage considering oom's husbands both beat her silly.

Evidence, please?


You've been both rude AND insulting.

im telling cornflake!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!and kelloggs
that's a troll posting

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I do not believe you.


Non Sequitur. Your trollish opinions have nothing to do with how OOM's husbands treat her.

Go right ahead.

Oh but out of all people you chose billiscool as an example!
Fnord seems to be pretty happy with his wife, to mention one of the people who have been posting in this thread. And those relationships that have come off WP, most of them involve a guy and a girl and there are plenty of success stories there too.
And I'm sure some men also refuse to date minorities, or where you trying to imply something about women there?
One part of me can't help but admire how you keep having such a good opinion of yourself despite all evidence to the contrary. And you answered to feralucce you stated your opinions here because you were too "nice" in real life. Do you know what that means in that specific context? Spineless. One thing women don't like btw, so you could add that one to your list of cons. And I've also noticed you have away to excuse yourself, "women want to date me but I just don't want to date THEM, I have good social skills, I just don't use them" I recognize as an ego protection mechanism to avoid facing the reality of who you really are. You are also deep set into your own idea of the world, does a woman not get dates? She must be a lesbian! She is not? She must be trans them! Why don't you accept instead women with AS also have problems finding good dates? Emphasis on good, because you can allegedly have dates as well with one of those women who are dying to date you, but you don't want them.

: You are not offending me,it takes a serious attack to tick me off.I have the same equipment I was born with.And straight can also mean do you do drugs or not.
Yes,I get hit on by men.and I'm not being picky,a partial list of my suitors.

A man that has got disability on his thumb,he proudly displayed it like it was the Golden Goose
A 75 year old farmer,really
Drug addicted son of a prominent attorney,he had a pocket of Xanax and a really nice ride,but I am not a drug addict or a gold digger
A really scary man,will not go onto details
Another man who had attacked his father,on more than one occasion
A man who did not bathe
I live in a rural area,I was married for over twenty years.And not a good marriage either,so of I don't think someone will respect me I would rather be alone.

i suppose those are some bad guys. im curious about the scary man that you dont want to talk about. I by your definition am straightx2..dont do drugs and am into women

it's called sarcasm, and to shatbat, im not replying to you anymore, you have our opinion of me, and it's a negative one...m not going to let you destroy my self esteem. i am a good person, i am good looking, i am intelligent, i am a good catch, and i do have a lot to offer to the world, and i will not let you drag me down...if there is an ignore button here you will be on my list.

im free to say what i want, if you look at what isay through a negative pov that is on you. I actually have pretty good social skills i just never get out. I am not being rude to anyone here..i am stating my opinions which i have a right to do. I come to this forum bc im too nice in real life and never say what itruly want.[/quote]

Absolutely... You are free to say what ever you want. Free to do, does not mean free of consequence... and people's reactions are a consequence...

Ironically enough, it is not MY POV that I was viewing it through... It was a combination of the social norms, the reactions of the people you post to here, and the reactions of the NTs and other Autist I ask to confirm my reactions (because I am reactionary, I check to see if my interpretations are correct)...

For the record... a nice person doesn't think those things... you are restrained in person... not nice...

As I said in my original post, by all means, continue... but your reaction to an honest statement (blaming me for interpreting your commentary as it was stated) is kind of my point. Since you find, in every topic, yourself in the center of misunderstandings, the problem is not with those around you... In all these interactions, you are the common denominator...

Lastly... since my comment was an HONEST admonition to seek assistance in the social arts and skills with communication, and you chose to view it as an attack... it actually falls with you...

You're stance tells me which category I can relegate you to... I've said my piece... take it or leave it...

what exactly do you think i think? only thing i restrain is that i think it's unfair how women can be quite shallow and how women reject shy guys. I dont hate women, or hate anyone. I really said nothing negative about anyone other than oom's husbands who are scumbags for hitting her. i think that makes me an upstanding guy for caring about her wellbeing.

You know? I believe the best way to help you is to break your self-esteem first, then you'll have a more realistic idea of who you are and what you need to improve on. I went through that myself when I was 16, thankfully I never got to the bitterness stage, just to the cluelessness one.

But everytime you face something you'd rather not face you always flee, as you're doing now. This will be my last message to you, as long as you keep avoiding the facts and protecting your ego nothing about your current situation will change, and no amount of whining will ever change that, ever.