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Why do girls hate shy guys?
They expect their men to protect them (sexism) 14%  14%  [ 15 ]
Society says shy guys are bad 18%  18%  [ 20 ]
Shy guys are worse at sex 4%  4%  [ 4 ]
Shy guys are just boring 22%  22%  [ 24 ]
Women who reject introverts are just as superficial as men who reject fatties (duh!) 13%  13%  [ 14 ]
Other 29%  29%  [ 32 ]
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31 Jul 2013, 10:55 pm

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what exactly do you think i think? only thing i restrain is that i think it's unfair how women can be quite shallow and how women reject shy guys. I dont hate women, or hate anyone.

This, in its very structure is a hateful statement... women... no qualifier... your statement, by it's wording means ALL women... period... that is what you said. You don't point out that men are just as guilty... you don't single out a type of women... you just say women... And if that is not what you meant... then it is NOT our fault for YOU not posting what you meant... it falls upon you as the communicator to communicate your intent as PRECISELY as possible...


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I really said nothing negative about anyone other than oom's husbands who are scumbags for hitting her. i think that makes me an upstanding guy for caring about her wellbeing.

I'm not going call you on this except to say... I saw the post that got deleted...

FOR THE RECORD... In just this thread...
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btw your post is garbage

This is negative...

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girls want high t masculine guys who make them wet and make them feel safe.

You have stated with this post that women are inherently shallow and slaves to their hormones.

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your post about ''oh just do this'' or ''go get a girl who is a friend to practice with'' clearly illustrates how easy aspie women have it.

Dismissive to an entire class of people... relegating people who tend to have a higher incidence of sensory issues, OCD and andxiety disorders as comorbid conditions...

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as ok as a guy can be knowing he will never get p****.

Relegating the social role of women to ... their genitalia... nothing more...

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oh fnord the word twister of the forum..

Negative and insulting...

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yeah a misogynist calls her husband scum bc i dont like people who beat their spouses male or female. right.

No. He called you a misogynist based on the rest of your commentary AND the deleted comment. As a feminist (WHO IS MALE), This is how you have come across to me... and the NTs in my house.

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.you are scum too for going back to him and saying he is more worthy of love than the many virgins of this forum who are respectful.

You did... at this point call OOM scum... There is no way that this is NOT negative... unless of course you meant that in the nicest possible way.

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im not jealous that your husband has a lazy 60 year old housewife with a bad temper

and this was completely complimentary, I am sure.

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Did you even graduate high-school?

Insulting someone's education isn't negative?

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the reason you have a husband is because you are a female

Another blanket statement about women... Which... again... is very disrespectful...

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but i dont think they are any less remarkable than a lot of the douschebag guidos out there getting p**** every night....

Again, reducing women to their genitalia... and a racial slur.

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liz, are you straight? It can be tougher for females if they are lez, bc most girls aren't.

just... really???

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maybe it's the dateless that comes first word twister fnord?

Again, insulting... and for the record... that is never the case... it comes from attitude... I promise you.

Now... this was all of the insulting comments in this thread up to the point that I joined the conversation that I found in a simple glance... If you really believe that your intent was not to be insulting, you may want to revamp your language toolkit... however, it does not seem to be the case... especially with commentary like "I come to this forum bc im too nice in real life and never say what itruly want."... Where you tell us you have restraint in real life and then come here to release your vitriol.

That being said... I did not write this post to initiate a witch hunt (you seem to be able to do this on your own)... I wrote it in the (vain) hope that you will see how you come across and will take the steps to correct it... The people here can be your greatest allies... an ear to listen, friends, confidants and sounding boards to test concepts and ideas... or... we can just ignore you... really, the choice is yours to make.

I am done on this topic.
no wonder you're sucha whiner! you are a male feminist...sheesh....

btw it's not classy to show others convos contained on this site...like your family..oh mom look at the meanie online..i mean really dude?


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31 Jul 2013, 10:57 pm

Face it, kid. We're all on to you.

The record speaks for itself.



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31 Jul 2013, 10:59 pm

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Isn't it amazing how a common cause can bring so many disparate people together and unite their efforts, if not their spirits?


Indeed :lol:.


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31 Jul 2013, 11:00 pm

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But men also reject women,just because you are female it does not mean you will have a date on Friday.
but liz, the diff is, being a girl allows you to get hit on more than men..and let's face it, even if your marriage wasnt a good one, you still got married, had sex, led a normal life. many guys here havent even kissed a girl. girl's have the advantage.


I don't think my marriage counts as a success story,and it was not a normal life.I'm glad i have my two kids,but most of it sucked.I would not go down the same path.You should channel your energy into something creative.Sex is awesome,I won't lie about that.And girls also have all the disadvantages,getting used for sex,getting pregnant,the slut/stud double standard,etc..
That's the thing though, girls always turn their successes into negatives. Im not saying your marriage was a positive thing, but im saying it shows you are able to find someone, and you are able to have relationships and sex...while many here who are males can not A recurring theme i find here is that girls can have someone it's just they dont want them.

Getting used for sex is still validation..let's be real, girls enjoy sex too. there is a difference between guys using girls for sex because they find them desirable but not wanting a relatonship with them.....versus, a male who cant get sex or a relationship.

not downplaying your struggles just trying to express my pov.


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31 Jul 2013, 11:00 pm

Oh... they're all members... lol...

And whining? by calling you on your misogyny, insults, negativity, hate speech and racism? If that is the definition of whining we have adopted for the framework of this conversation, then I will wear it like a badge of honor...

I wish you well...


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31 Jul 2013, 11:03 pm

Feralucce wrote:
Oh... they're all members... lol...

And whining? by calling you on your misogyny, insults, negativity, hate speech and racism? If that is the definition of whining we have adopted for the framework of this conversation, then I will wear it like a badge of honor...

I wish you well...
this whole argument started because oom told me her husband beats her and she said self depreciating things.to which i replied that her husband was scum..should i have said he is a good man? I was telling her HE is the scum, and she shouldnt be insulting herself...if that makes me an ass then ill gladly be one!! !

i wish you well too.


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31 Jul 2013, 11:05 pm

Shatbat wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Isn't it amazing how a common cause can bring so many disparate people together and unite their efforts, if not their spirits?


Indeed :lol:.
btw wanted to point out that the only reason you wanted me to list why women should date me is so you could tell me what a bad person i am and insult me...so it is you who is the bad person here...if you;re ever in nj id like to go out for lunch with you...you can pick up the tab though ;)


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31 Jul 2013, 11:05 pm

wtfid2: your hate speech and commentary started before that.

Please stop addressing me... you are not worth my time


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31 Jul 2013, 11:06 pm

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... just trying to express my pov.

Image
... obviously.



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31 Jul 2013, 11:06 pm

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wtfid2: your hate speech and commentary started before that.

Please stop addressing me... you are not worth my time
atleast i keep in shape....


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31 Jul 2013, 11:10 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
That's the thing though, girls always turn their successes into negatives. Im not saying your marriage was a positive thing, but im saying it shows you are able to find someone, and you are able to have relationships and sex...while many here who are males can not A recurring theme i find here is that girls can have someone it's just they dont want them.

Getting used for sex is still validation..let's be real, girls enjoy sex too. there is a difference between guys using girls for sex because they find them desirable but not wanting a relatonship with them.....versus, a male who cant get sex or a relationship.

not downplaying your struggles just trying to express my pov.


what about me, I had an attractive autism women ask me out, and ask me to have sex with her.
i've only had one sex partner. I was very lucky man. too bad, no cute girl has ever asked you out.



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31 Jul 2013, 11:14 pm

Wtfid2,it was not a success,it was a disaster.And I don't think it was finding someone,maybe more like clinging to someone because I did not think I could make it on my own.
Getting used for sex may validate you as an object,but I will pass on that kind of sex thank you.I think it is different for some males,sex is sex,they do not care if they are an object if they get their rocks off.Not judging,that is just the way it is.
I'm am not going to bed with a man unless I respect him and I think he feels the same towards me.I don't know your age,but at mine I now know better.


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31 Jul 2013, 11:23 pm

I was on NJ less than two weeks ago :lol:
I suspect figurative speech somewhere there but it probably passed over my head :scratch:

And you just insulted Feralucce. And failed to address his evidence, too, you coped out with an ad hominem. You don't bring value here, you only take it away.


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31 Jul 2013, 11:23 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
Feralucce wrote:
wtfid2: your hate speech and commentary started before that.

Please stop addressing me... you are not worth my time
atleast i keep in shape....


And? What has that done for you? Oh... right... nothing... Funny thing is... I am in shape... I run, lift, kick-box, am a martial artist of 18 years and I bike. My entire line, including the health nut has my basic body shape... Yes, I have a little extra around the middle... because when you're diabetic, it is easier if your insulin overtakes your glucose to simply eat a little something...

but at this point, regardless of whether or not I am in shape...In this situation... I am doing better than you... I am in an open, 16 year relationship with a beautiful woman... and because we are open, I have a playmate on the side... just a little something that had to happen due to the hypersexual diagnosis and my soul mate couldn't keep up... you know how that goes, right? Oh, wait... you don't...

And you know why... because deep down... I AM a nice guy... I don't restrain myself from saying the things that I know are wrong... because I don't have to... I have respect for women specifically, people as a whole, and I have a great attitude... When I explain to new people that they might need to have a bit of understanding because I am autistic and I am doing the best I can... they accommodate me because I am not a dick.

So, pardon me if I have absolutely NO compassion for your situation... because NOT ONLY have you been a dick to everyone you have ever spoken to on this board, spouted racists slurs, and hate speech towards women... you then turn around and insult one of the people (i.e. me) that was ACTUALLY trying to help you...

So... Take your petty insults (and that is all that they are) shove them into a body cavity of your choice (if you wish, you can private message me for a couple suggestions of prime real estate for that) and grow up... But don't think that anything that an iron pumping, self-proclaimed genius, woman slandering, rude, flip flopping pain in the ass can say can possibly insult me... I was really hoping that you could see how your words effect you, especially on this topic... but you are too myopic to see it...

So... In closing... from here on out, this is all I read when you post...

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ss2hULhXf04[/youtube]


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31 Jul 2013, 11:24 pm

billiscool wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
That's the thing though, girls always turn their successes into negatives. Im not saying your marriage was a positive thing, but im saying it shows you are able to find someone, and you are able to have relationships and sex...while many here who are males can not A recurring theme i find here is that girls can have someone it's just they dont want them.

Getting used for sex is still validation..let's be real, girls enjoy sex too. there is a difference between guys using girls for sex because they find them desirable but not wanting a relatonship with them.....versus, a male who cant get sex or a relationship.

not downplaying your struggles just trying to express my pov.


what about me, I had an attractive autism women ask me out, and ask me to have sex with her.
i've only had one sex partner. I was very lucky man. too bad, no cute girl has ever asked you out.
yeah the girls who were into me either had bfs or were not my type.


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31 Jul 2013, 11:25 pm

Feralucce wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
Feralucce wrote:
wtfid2: your hate speech and commentary started before that.

Please stop addressing me... you are not worth my time
atleast i keep in shape....


And? What has that done for you? Oh... right... nothing... Funny thing is... I am in shape... I run, lift, kick-box, am a martial artist of 18 years and I bike. My entire line, including the health nut has my basic body shape... Yes, I have a little extra around the middle... because when you're diabetic, it is easier if your insulin overtakes your glucose to simply eat a little something...

but at this point, regardless of whether or not I am in shape...In this situation... I am doing better than you... I am in an open, 16 year relationship with a beautiful woman... and because we are open, I have a playmate on the side... just a little something that had to happen due to the hypersexual diagnosis and my soul mate couldn't keep up... you know how that goes, right? Oh, wait... you don't...

And you know why... because deep down... I AM a nice guy... I don't restrain myself from saying the things that I know are wrong... because I don't have to... I have respect for women specifically, people as a whole, and I have a great attitude... When I explain to new people that they might need to have a bit of understanding because I am autistic and I am doing the best I can... they accommodate me because I am not a dick.

So, pardon me if I have absolutely NO compassion for your situation... because NOT ONLY have you been a dick to everyone you have ever spoken to on this board, spouted racists slurs, and hate speech towards women... you then turn around and insult one of the people (i.e. me) that was ACTUALLY trying to help you...

So... Take your petty insults (and that is all that they are) shove them into a body cavity of your choice (if you wish, you can private message me for a couple suggestions of prime real estate for that) and grow up... But don't think that anything that an iron pumping, self-proclaimed genius, woman slandering, rude, flip flopping pain in the ass can say can possibly insult me... I was really hoping that you could see how your words effect you, especially on this topic... but you are too myopic to see it...

So... In closing... from here on out, this is all I read when you post...

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ss2hULhXf04[/youtube]
i keep in shape for ME...not t oget girls...so in that sense it has done quite a bit


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