23 years old and never had a girlfriend

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I had my first kiss at 20 and my first boyfriend at 23 nothing to be ashamed of.
I'm a pretty girl people say, but yeah asperger makes me less able to connect with people. And physical contact used to freak me out, so I just kept walking away from situations with boys.

I guess I ended up getting my first boyfriend because I started hanging out more with friends and that's how I met him. And I enjoyed my life and did many things to help overcome my asperger. For me playing music really helps, so I started doing that. So maybe try find something your passionate about, I think it's very attractive when a guy/girl is passionate about something and actively lives life to the fullest.

I hope this helps.

I'm 23 and I have never had a girlfriend, though about two years ago, this girl who I went to school with when we were kids came back into my life and we have been friends ever since.

However, I'm too much of a chicken to ask her out on a date. Knowing her, she'll either punch me in my face or kick me in my groin. As much as I want to go to a {very friendly} prostitute who lives a few houses away from mine, I'm going to leave that as a last resort.

Don't feel bad over not having a GF. You'll eventually find someone to be with.

I don't mean to come off as rude, but I get a little irritated with the whole "Don't worry, you'll find someone!" spiel. It's just kind of dismissive and doesn't acknowledge the deeper issues, which I really want to address and fix.

I'm 26 and never had a gf. I've just never really felt like an attractive person. I've always felt a little socially awkward, and the fact that I still get acne in my mid 20's, even with treatment, certainly doesn't help.
I have a decent job though, live on my own, and never had trouble finding friends, but I can only count maybe one time where I was aware of someone being attracted to me, which was back in college. I know I should have asked her out, but I couldn't stop thinking about everything that could go wrong, so I never did.

Once, a girl that I did end up going out with (who I met online,) mentioned that she thought I would be much more outgoing, and was surprised at how awkward I was in person.
I just wish I knew how to fix myself...The fact that friends can enjoy my company yet there's some unspoken quality about me that scares away potential mates is very confusing to me.

Hi Wafflehouse, I used to feel the same way when people said that. I had my first boyfriend at 23.
I personally think you need to stop trying to fix yourself. You are a shy and socially akward person, so what? Many people are like that and do find a boyfriend/girlfriend. The only thing you can really do is take good care of your personal grooming and meet many new people. Just join a sportclub or a group of your interest. You will meet many likeminded people there. I find that when I'm doing sports or some sort of activity I'm usually a lot more sociable and less scared to talk to people.

It's quiet funny when you talk about the online dating thing though.. I met a guy online and thought he'd be very shy and quiet (which is what I like) and he turned out to be super outgoing and talktive. I was really dissapointed by that.

But if for any reason you do feel that your confidence is lacking and keeping you from meeting a nice girl you could always do some theraphy. (sorry I'm no expert on this subject, but I'm sure there are ways in which people could help you)

But please, for your own sake, don't ever think you need to "fix yourself" in order to get to be with someone.