Why do NTs date Aspies?

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1. Sometimes they do know and don't care

2. All of the NT's are not taken!

3. This is just ridiculous and you know it!

Why not?

There's lots of reasons. The NT may find some Aspie quirks attractive. They may have similar interests. They may of been friends awhile. The NT may have problems with bad partners in the past & likes the stereotype that Aspies are honest & extremity loyal. The NT may have a parent complex & want a guy they can fix, control or is just dependent on them. The Aspie may have a good body. Aspie may have a nice job or other material things that some care about. The NT may like how the Aspie is direct & upfront. The NT may have some mental disorders that the Aspie can relate to or is sympathetic of. The Aspie may be very high-functioning or at least functional in major ways that are import for the NT.No two Apies or NTs are alike & everyone is a different individual & has their own likes, dislikes & good qualities & bad qualities so it depends on the specif Aspie & the specif NT that date.

My 1st girlfriend was NT. We met on a forum & had some similar interests. We had some weird things n comon like dyslexia, OCD & ADHD. She had a werd typ-n styl kina lik dis but very hie-per & i understod her posts beter dan lots of otherz & i thought it was kina cUte. We became online friends & she was a bit younger than me; she was 15 & I was 20. She had some problems & I was very supportive & protective of her. I was somewhat of a mentor I guess & she never had a dad so there could of been kind of a father/daughter complex thing going on. She told me she liked me & I never considered the idea of a relationship with her before then due to not have any interest in relationships. I thought about it for a bit & was kind of worried about the age difference but realized how much happier she was & how she was working on her issues having me as a friend & 1ce I made peace with that aspect I suddenly realized I liked her because she was the 1st person I could connect with, relate to & be myself with & she was a good friend.

What a BS. I am an aspie woman and I do consider myself more attractive than plenty of NT women.
So far I've only dated one guy, and he has dated and attracts plenty of NT women.

I don't think it's right to say people with their brains wired differently shouldn't date. It's the same sort of thing as opposing interracial marriage. And maybe it's not so much of an attraction to AS traits as it is to the person themself - the best people are the ones who see someone for who they truly are, not some diagnosis written down on a piece of paper.

For aspie guys, it's because he's physically attractive. Everything else is secondary to that.

Because I love my Aspie boyfriend and he loves me back!
He was the first boy to show me I am worth something. Before him the only other men I had been with we're hook up, men who just wanted to use me. When I met him I knew we would be together forever. He makes me feel important, beautiful, smart, and loved! I've never been happier in my life.
His Aspie qualities are really what turned me on to him. His honesty, sincerity, and loyalty. Plus I find a guy with a brain to be incredibly sexy!
And he is so darn cute!! ! That's not Aspie related, but he is the cutest boy ever!

I disagree^^

With aspie women, any behavioural quirks, hell even if she is a grade A b***h. It matters very little as all men go crazy for a moderately pretty woman.

With men, I would say it is more usually success/wealth or intelligence. For most socially popular women, even the most extremely attractive looks of a man will not overcome strange hobbies and social weirdness. But many men on the spectrum are very good at certain things which can lead them to great success.

because it only matters what type of person you are

Theyre on the rebound!

I'm not dating her, but there's at some level mutual feelings (it's complicated and weird), but my NT best friend that I'm in love with likes my "different"-ness. She somehow finds the various aspects of my aspergers endearing or cute, especially when I take things literally or get intensely frustrated over something requiring fine motor skills.

They don't know.

I've only had relationships with NTs, so I have no idea what a relationship with someone like me would be like. Too late now, as I'm married to a lovely NT lady.

Of my past relationships....

1. Some were just going on physical attraction (I used to be quite good-looking).
2. Some of those above didn't realize till too late!
3. Some found my eccentricities endearing (for a while, anyway).
4. Some were attracted by shared interests and opinions.

The above is the case within most relationships, I have found.

Because we're sexy.