Are asperger men what woman secretly want?

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They hate us they put a sign on us that says kill it with fire!

no one knows I have aspergers until i tell them some have thought i lying(why would you lie about that?) i get rejected more cause i'm not that great looking and poor. none have got far enough to know i have it. well excet the ones i stupidly blab it to honest to a fault

Kezzstar

a woman that loves to talk and likes contact only way that would be better is if they are silly and playful.
I usually have to make women tell me about their day and interests its something i crave and miss though i like to talk alot myself so its has to be balanced, but i really liked this one lady over the net and i loved listening to her when she would.

"how was your day? "it was ok." thaats it ok blah on the other hand had her tell me all about making windmill blades once and the process sounds boring and i'd hate to do it but it was very nice listening to her .

I love to be touched by my romantic interest only!! something my family is jealous and sometimes upset over. I guess i see how its odd but idk why i'm that way i hate being touched by family and friends and strangers but when its a woman i like i suddenly need to be held and hold her. even hand holding is fantastic o.O and i don't feel the need to sanitize afters lol

a problem i have atleast online is continuing to think of topics and worrying about bringing up the same topic twice combined with my over filled memory is hard. Why don't women talk more whah

as to the topic idk i've learned that aspies are different from each other i certainly hope one day some woman will love me
from what women tell me i'm sweet, kind, funny, (some say handsome, yeah idk what they on) even had a few say i'm the perfect boyfriend( though i suspect they just being friends.

i like this forum i just hope i don't talk to much :S i don't get to interact much

As a middle-aged Aspie (late 40s) and speaking purely from my own experience, I think many women genuinely love Aspie men, though often in a similar way to how they love gay men.

I've lost count of how many females have described me as 'sweet, funny and easy to talk to.' Which is nice, but not so great if you really want to move on to something more physical than the friend zone. When a woman says she 'feels so safe' with you, it's a compliment but it's also slightly insulting.

In my 20s I spent hours intently listening to girls (often very attractive ones) on platonic dates, only to find predatory NT guys sweeping them off their feet and straight into bed. I used to wonder if I was ever going to get beyond an affectionate peck on the cheek and a hug. Finally, thankfully I did. There IS hope guys!

I personally think Aspie males are more likely to 'score' with a female who is slightly 'off beam' socially (not necessarily an Aspie). If you're a Big Bang Theory fan, think the Lesley Winkle character. My greatest 'success' has been with women who are unconventional, broad minded and happy to take the lead.

I think a lot of NT women find AS men cute and often attractive but are confused by their inept attempts at courtship, particularly when making the first move physically (or not as in my case). One girlfriend initially thought I was gay, then that I simply didn't find her attractive. However when informed otherwise, she took matters into her own hands and we had the most incredible physical relationship. Aspie men, once freed from the maze of social conventions, can be incredibly loving and tactile (I realise this isn't the same in every case).

But while the downsides of AS are many, women DO fall in love with us and it can lead to incredible relationships. Sustaining them over the long term is however another subject altogether....

To be honest, who the heck voted in this poll?

Forum trolls or actual female members?

probably Female members who are forum trolls! NT women cant stand us were weird we act nerdy and get excited easily over stupid crap and creep them out with our hobbies!

I was talking to a female friend about this very subject last weekend.

She said that secretly, a lot of women want a protector and the "bad boy" can make them feel safe because they know he can kick the ass of someone who tries to hurt them. When it comes to nicer guys, the woman has to trust that when the situation comes, the nice guy will be able to kick the ass of someone who tries to hurt them. But women don't like the other attributes of a "bad boy."

So in reality, it seems many are looking for two different sets of traits, which often, but not always, are mutually exclusive.

A nice, loving, caring, understanding man who will go rambo on anyone who tries to hurt me.

The idea just doesn't make logical sense. Someone I chat with on Facebook has said this: "good guys do finish last...why? because they get the girl!"

We also display less emotion, which is the definition of cool!

HELL NO. They are always trying to tell you that "Yes you did mean it in some negative way that doesn't even seem like a possible/reasonable interpretation of what you said, even though you LITERALLY JUST TOLD ME what you actually meant by it," and refuse to listen to anything when they are mad. In fact you have to beg to be allowed to merely TALK for so long that by the time they finally allow you to explain or say it, it might not even make sense anymore! Males seems to be worse on this then females, so when you're talking about males specifically it's even worse. There seems to just be this huge problem like they won't believe that anyone can possibly be saying something other then what they think, even though they know they have Asperger's Syndrome and therefore are unlikely to be right in their interpretation of other people! (if there's anyone or the prlerson themselves who disagreed with them). If I have an ASD boyfriend, it's much better for me to have an autistic one. Autistic people are also usually nice in general, and though I highly despise "politeness" (i.e. soccer moms), autistic people aren't doing it cause they're dumb, they're doing it to actually be nice. Asperger's males are nice on the surface too - at least the ones I know and I probably would not go to someone who seems "creepy" but I'm also not dumb enough to think that merely saying "Hi" or talking a lot is "creepy". In fact no creepy person I've met has ever seemed to have any signs of ASD at all. In any case it does not seem like As pies make good boyfriends at all because they argue too much and always insist that you cannot possibly be telling the truth about what you said or meant about something, but of course if the individual Aspire knows how to accept the common fact that LITERALLY ANYTHING A PERSON EVER SAYS ABOUT HOW THEY MEANT SOMETHING IS ALWAYS WITHOUT EXCEPTION 99% LIKELY TO BE TRUE BEXAUSE WHO WOULD EVER LIE ABOUT THAT?, ... then they might be much better then my Aspie boyfriends were/are. What is good for the boyfriend though (besides the obvious of being extremely loving, caring, sympathetic, understanding, and caring about you for REAL rather then the not-really-love that most people do or basing it on something stupid like a car or how you look), is the immature one. If you're not "immature" then there's no fun around the person anyway!

How could not touching "unless you're close to someone" be a problem?! If someone is your girlfriend then you're close to them... so, yeah. If you just walk up and randomly touch a stranger? ...Um, yeah, don't do that!

Also how could "not wanting to be rock led" be a problem? Um, what.....? All marriages now have a pre-requirement of tickling or something? lol

Rayvn, I respect your opinion, it's good to have input from a neurotypical woman. You're probably right, I'm more a HFA profile than AS, but still I'm difficult. Not easy to get along with. I'm intractable, rigid in my routines, and hate accommodating change in my life, which means relationship-wise I'm extremely difficult.

I'm reticent though, but still awkward, as my insistence on sameness is probably very annoying. But still I'm trying to modify these behaviours and make compromise as much as I possibly can. And I also have all the other problems people with autism have, which isn't easy for others.

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Depends on the girl, I don't really care about charisma and wouldn't see trouble with initiating or fear of it as a turn off...I have trouble initiating interaction in general so I'd be understanding about that.

Autism isn't a mental illness, its a neurological condition and/or developmental disorder, though many people with autism also have mental illnesses.

During a lockdown at my highschool, due to a man with a gun coming in the school....one of the other students told me 'I'm surprised you're not the psychopath with the gun.' It was a female student and I am female as well they certainly can be nasty, not all are though, same with males some are complete jerks some aren't.

I seriously DOUBT IT. I don't understand why one would think that. Surely this forum gives you an indication as to otherwise?

Women most likely don't even class guys into AS and Non AS, more like, creepy, weird, normal etc.

I also voted no, because it depends on the individual how cool they are. Some might be cooler than normal males but I doubt it is always the case...also the term 'cool' probably does not even mean the same thing to everyone.