How to talk to Asian girls?

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We've made the top 5 in Japan:

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Getting more to the point:

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A couple of entertaining stories from Stickman

http://www.stickmanweekly.com/Reader2007/reader4713.htm

http://www.stickmanweekly.com/Reader2007/reader4707.htm

Just move to an area with a high Asian population and just be yourself. Just be careful of catching a lot of Sh*t from other people for being in a mixed relationship.

Or just ignore them.

We're Aspies, anyway, and have to do our best to ignore NTs.

Just dont make the wrong moves or wrong impressions or else you might end up like this guy! [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuwoUM4oYe0&oref=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DcuwoUM4oYe0&has_verified=1[/youtube] He must have done the whoe me luv you long time thing to these ladys and got his ass beat down lol!

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Some good news for you.

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Well for me, this has a very personal aspect to it.

First, the backstory:

I was diagnosed very late in life at 43 (now I'm nearly 49) and by my 30s had truly realised how different I was from everybody else, without knowing that there was a name for it; I thought I was unique. I used to ask myself "It's not fair, why aren't there women like me? ... Are there women like me?".

And then three years ago, I found her. Or at least, one implementation of that paradigm. However, I didn't know it to begin with and I eventually tried (and failed) to date this woman before I had truly realised what she was. Our AS and the circumstances got in the way of that part of it; there was a lot of pretending to be NT for social reasons on her part; while I was sure she was a kindred spirit, I didn't realise just how deep that ran. She has done very well in her career and much of her life and deliberately hides the AS quite well, seeming merely to be very eccentric; she seems terrified of being "outed".

So it seems she had been hiding in plain sight under my nose for some years. The only two times I thought she was like me, I didn't believe it because I thought it was too good to be true, that I was seeing something because I wanted to see it. I had been looking for somebody like that for years, and I wasn't sure that such a person even existed until she showed up.

She's a lovely sweet natured person, quite good looking and really, really cute; she's utterly gorgeous in all respects, as near the perfect partner as I could realistically have hoped to find. Sadly, I was nowhere ready to be anyone's boyfriend at the time and she had in fact just aquired one. He's quite a bit younger than her and is also clearly on the autism spectrum, but in a different way to the two of us; she seems to have been coaching him in sociability skills over the last year or so.

Now for the payload:

She is of Asian descent, though English by birth and legal nationality; the thing is I did not fancy her because of that and was indeed quite surprised at her not being ethnic English like me; knowing very few people of other races socially, it had never occurred to me that this might happen.

I had always dismissed the whole "Asian babes" or "Yellow Fever" thing as nonsense, just a childish fetish. Yet after her, I began seeing Asian women in a new light and clearly there seemed to be something to the phenomenon. This was unsettling, so I set out to deconstruct it as it seemed irrational and potentially racist.

I have since been told that many English AS men forced to resort to NT partners choose foreign women, because due to English not being their first language, they have to rely on being more direct in communicating; less of the "subtext" or the "game"; even NT men have enough trouble with that as it is. However, it is my understanding that this woman's home city has a large Asian ethnic population who, in general, speak very good, if not perfect, English; so that doesn't apply here.

Physically, it's easily explainable. My preference for women regarding their looks alone favours those who are slim, taller than average, dark hair, ideally worn long, dark eyes, small-to-medium size bust, long legs, nice ass and pleasant / attractive faces. White and other women like this do exist, but that physiology is far more common among Asian women; so a race-blind selection process would be likely to yield more matches among Asian women, due to demographics alone.

Emotionally, many Asian cultures value traditions of order, discipline, doing the right thing even if it hurts, not rocking the boat and in particular speaking in ways that by western standards would seem very direct, if not actually rude. In other words, and this has been mentioned elsewhere on WP, people like that can seem to be AS when viewed through western eyes, even when they are not. This makes even many NT women of Asian descent a good match for an AS man, especially if like me he is seeking an equal partner, rather than a submissive one.

Furthermore, humans are no more immune to evolution by natural selection than are cats, dogs and tapeworms. People in that culture who are naturally like that will have an advantage and be successful, thus they are more likely to intermarry and have offspring like themselves. Thus in addition to NTs who seem AS, one might expect a higher proportion of Asian women of some cultures to be genuinely AS. This has also been said of certain sections of English culture as well, IIRC.

Thus an AS man seeking an AS (or AS-like NT) partner and dating only or mostly Asian women is likely to find a compatible partner more quickly than when dating people of all ethnicities and races. It's not that one cannot find white or black women like this; it's just that for a given number of women, there will be a larger number of Asian women like it.

Well, that's how it seems to me anyway. A combination of looks, culture and evolution.

Does anybody have a better explanation? And are there any scientific studies addressing this issue from an AS point of view?

That's a pretty specific question. I have trouble finding any nationality of women, let alone a categorized one.

I'm only attracted to Asian girls, which sadly there are very few who share common interests such as anime or video games, and whenever I do find an Asian girl who is I scare her away easily because of my tendency to come off as a stalker (even though I have no intentions of stalking anyone).

I'm actually in therapy right now and taking Lexapro because of depression brought on by my obsession with a half-Thai girl who recently got engaged to someone else and is expecting his child. I honestly don't think that I will ever find anyone else who's better for me than her, and OKCupid hasn't helped.

If there are any Asian boyfriend-free girls on here who would like to be my Sweetheart from the ground up, please respond.

Okay, that sounded pretty stupid and desperate, but still....

You can always move to silicon valley! Tons of asian girls here tons of anime conventions sometimes 3 or 4 in one year! Its an aspie otaku paradise! Imagine dating a female Asian whos an aspie an otaku and a cosplayer? Hehe! Like cosplays as Boa Hancock from One Piece?!

No no no no no!

Nico Robin!

Or

Kukakku Shiba!

Not Boa Hancock!

Rukia?