Reasons why I never will have a boyfriend.What do you think?

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It sounds like you have low self esteem. I used to feel the same way about never finding someone who will accept me and want to be with me for my own reasons but I still found someone. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

You give me hope.

you're lucky.
people told me when i was 16, you're young, you have plenty of time, you're find someone.
again when 17, 18, 19, 20...25, turning 26 soon been 10 years and no one has been able to love me. 3 years until i'm 30 and its all over. I don't see anyone finding me and I'm basically out of people to message on sites.

This is what I fear too.
People tell me I am beautiful, smart, etc etc and that 'It will come when I least expect it'. That 'it will happen'. They told me that when I was 17. I am 22 now.

...and I lost my bet .

well its different for you, guys will seek you out, women won't seek me out. so it is more likely that you'll find someone.
Have you shared a picture or profile on here?
if you are beautiful which is very likely, major problem will be guys like me not going after you cause you're out of our league. Just try not to fall for a mean guy who mistreats you.

I do think you have to put yourself out there. the whole "it'll come when you least expect it." makes no sense to me, I guess it could for people who are out and about every day and able to talk to random strangers with social expertize. Also one of those sayings people say to cheer up others.

but hey At-least you're only 22 :>

A bunch of people have probably liked you and you just didn't realize it. Besides, would you rather go through years of hurt from broken relationships or find the right person and skip all that mess? Cause let me tell you, broken relationships just shatter your self-esteem worse then not meeting someone. They leave underlying scars that cause a heap of more personal problems.

Can someone please tell me what's so attractive about a girl that can cook?

If you are in a relationship with her she will probably cook for you, so that you can eat without having to cook. If she can cook well you can eat well without having to cook. Since most people like eating more than cooking this seems like a satisfactory arrangement.

True love is instant, strong affection for said person so no worries. You won't even feel like you wanna be with him/her all the time. It's different from what you'd expect.

Hope it has changes since then but still... my .2 cents:

That is what you think, in your mind. Unless you have people throwing rotten fruit at you when you walk the streets you really don't know what other's think



Can you be more specific? I've known people say they have difficult characters when in reality they were simply not able to fit in socially because of anxiety issues.



Which could indicate social anxiety issues typical of AS.



That means there be no mice where you live



Not a problem. Most people you'd meet at nightclubs are hyper social ...which would be highly incompatible with you anyway.


That is a very strong statement and it shows a high level of maturity to admit it. I will dare guess that you mean you want emotional intimacy a lot more and certainly before the physical. NT's apparently do the physical first and then the emotional.



This is the Age of the Geek! Personally I find nothing sexier than a girl that is nerdy. Let others keep the bovine tits 'n ass beer binge girls... I'll take the one in the corner getting the newest high score on her cellphone game.



That is an AS issue. Its not that critical..if they're bored with you then that is their problem not yours!



I'm Colombian so for me, if you know how to make coffee you qualify as 'knows how to cook'.

seriously now though, that is not an issue either. Question is.. do you hate to cook or is it that you've not had the chance to spend time learning or have someone teach you? Most people hate to cook food but love to cook pastries/sweets/baking.



Clumsy is cute. Just don't be juggling-knives-oops type of clumsy.
Cleanliness is a matter of individuality. My room too looks like the aftermath of a nuclear war...but I keep my kitchen spotless and perfectly organized. My personal space is for me... I like my mess and I know where my stuff is. Kitchen for me is something more 'social' and since I love to cook I do want it to be tidy.



You're just 18 now you're supposed to start getting life experience from now on.
Your sexual preference hints that you have had previous relationships and sexual experience which tells me you can connect with people even if perhaps they just end up using you. Maybe none got to be the BF you wanted.... so take that which you learned and try to avoid people like those and seek the right one.

When you are 20 it is VERY easy to take an all or nothing view to things in life. Just let life happen. Have you SEEN some couples out there and said to yourself that somehow even THAT PERSON has a bf/gf. It can happen to you too. I am not saying you do not know yourself or that you don't know what you want but must grownups will tell you that at 20 you are not necessarily the same person at 40.

BTW, I am a nerd and my husband is a nerd and my bedroom looks like a bomb fell in it and are really clumsy, have no friends (except for my husband), have high expectations for love (but over time it has gotten more realistic), dont notice when people are bored with me, husband does all the cooking, etc., etc.

Oh, and I would have a gazillion cats, but we can't keep them where we live.

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There was a time when I thought I wouldn't have a GF, and I was okay with that. Then it happened in college but that fell apart almost a year later. The same thing sorta happened more recently this past October. Oddly enough I didn't go seeking out people to be my GF, they kinda got interested in me without me trying. Funny.

I find my best relationships have been the ones where I didnt really go SEEKING a BF. They kind of just entered my life and things developed as well.

I never actually seek potential GFs, we just happen to like each other and over time things happen. It feels like a lot like stress when people come to you, that and I'm not that good at approaching people.