gf catch 22

Post Reply New Topic

You don't need those... you can take a bus.



Maybe you need to find some hobbies that don't require money, there are plenty out there. In regards to bush walks or going to a zoo etc ..You must have some money. How do you stay alive otherwise?



Maybe you need new friends. I don't know many people who like those things. They are out there.



Wrong, it isn't most people in society. What's to stop you finding meet ups in your area for your hobbies, or joining something like a bush walking group, meditation group, or something where people just get together? That meetup.com website has thousands.



Reading books in a book store is not a social life, it isn't social. A social life is getting to know/interacting with other people and doing things.

Why make an effort to socialise if you're not comfortable socialising? Most aspies are happy without socialising much.

There's no reason to ask someone about their sexual experience before you're ready to have sex with them, which it's wise to say something then as you can figure out the deal on STD's.

If they do then they can't exactly expect an answer.

Because aspies need some socializing too I guess, it's a human things.
And it's the best way to meet a match, otherwise you have to keep dealing with crazy women on okcupid who do games and flake for silly reasons.

the part about wanting to see exes on fb sounds creepy. I would seriously reconsider wanting to date them. otherwise yes I've met some who are very interested in past relationships then reject me stating that I don't have enough. I don't have any that became official gf/bf titles. I have a hard time lying and tend to be very open.

Why would you be upset about them not wanting to date you? They sound like hideous people.

bus cost money and takes 4 times the time to go places. like it takes me 20 mins to walk to the nearest store, 3 to drive there or 25 by bus. to my work its 20 mins by car, 1-1 and 30 mins one way. its all the wasted time waiting to change buses or waiting at a stop that adds alot of time.

is bush walking what you all call hiking? been a while since I talked to my ex friend from NZ , forgot you all have cute words, honesty If i had lots of money i might consider going to NZ to try to find a gf, women there seem to be pretty cool. sadly NZ is very far away. we have hiking trails here but most the closer ones cost $5 a day and close at sundown. well I guess there's really just one close by. There's free paths by the river though, but I am fearful to go alone.
both the zoos are crazy expensive and are like 200 miles away. plus apparently the one up north lost alot of animals so is rather bare.
I have very little basically whatever I make during the seasonal work after paying for gas , so 40-80 dollars every 3 months.

won't argue about the friends thing, but they are harder to find then dates. there's all kinds of sites for dates, but friends is left up to randomly meeting in public which isn't my strong point or i wouldn't be looking for dates online lol friends has all the same concerns of that of dating minus the emotional and cuddling pay off. I mean are they anti gun, anti welfare, do they like the outdoors , videogames. I bond thru activities and find just chatting to be boring, vrs chatting while walking is fun. ADHD I can't meet any at work or vocrehab stuff, so I am at a lost of how to make some. I'm in groups about guns and prepping on fb but most those guys are anti welfare and bit too far right leaning. they wouldn't like me if they really knew me. like my neighbor wouldn't.

I haven't met anyone not into drinking. Its kinda annoying. I just don't get drinking, I liked the taste of whiskey mixed with rootbeer, but at $10 a bottle and I don't like to get drunk it seems a waste. whine is just over priced juice lol we seem to have these main ways of doing fun things here, clubs/concerts, strip clubs, bowling/minigolf, movie theaters, hikes.

this guy i knew from school and this other guy from highschool keep trying to drag me to strip clubs >.< as much as i want to socialize no thanks. drinking while having some strange lady dance around half nude with loud music sounds awful. They think me a freak for not going.

last i checked meetups it just had a group that goes to other nations to do walks. older rich people. I guess i can check again. I probably need to find some new hobbies, but as you can probably guess its hard to find new hobbies i like when I focus on the current ones too much. a lot seem to be crafting and arts, which i have no interest in except wood shop, would be cool if there was a post high school wood shop place like they have sewing centers where you go and use their tools to sew, why isn't there a place for wood crafting. though I suppose spending hours crafting wooden bowls wouldn't really be a social life either . but its calming and i have something to show afterwards and could maybe sell them.

I made a ceder chest and a oak end table in my room, my biggest accomplishments, how many people can say the furniture in their house they made. if i won the lottery i'd make bowls all day in my garage. bowls for everyone.

they seemed nice and playful. I felt attracted to them on both personality and looks. Its easier to look back now and say they not nice people if they reject off past relationships or jobs, but at the time and still now the rejection hurts and has made me feel worthless at times.
same problem with finding work, no past experience is bad, I just didn't think it would be like that for relationships which are suppose to be done off of how the current two people bond and get along not how they did with past people. I have past experience with women but not official title and in person was only a week or two each.

sorry if you meant that for boo.

Once again my 6th sense gets the better of me. I keep forgetting most people can't sense this in others. I usually feel something "off" about the person if they are on a substantially different wave length to me.

stll international hiking, and theres single parents/ grandparents meet ups.

why can't people be happy just doing nice walks in town.

You didn't answer my question, how do you afford to stay alive if you have no money? You must have some form of income. Any surplus is used on priorities. Are you telling me you buy nothing ever except food and pay for rent etc?

that must be nice. I tend to think everyone is nice an honest like me though I'm getting better at thinking otherwise. I am also watchful of people in case the move to attack me. My main problem is i trust people too easily, I need to remember that most people aren't like me. but that all people are evil either. I don't know how to tell the two apart til they have shown their true face.

It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are w*kers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.

all my SSI is used by my mom to pay bills and other stuff. I have never got any of it. I've saved up other money over time and bought stuff, most was money saved up while going to college. I was able to buy a ps4 this year with money I had saved to go see this woman i loved, well turned out she didn't really love me, so i bought that.

but aside from electronics that I either saved for or bought with money that I got from tax return yeah I just buy food with food stamps and pay the bills with SSI. I don't buy clothes either. precept I finally bought new underwear and socks last month. I have some left from my tax return once its gone there's no more til next year. and theres some no fun things I need to buy with it. oh and 100 left from the dating savings. I wish i had a monthly income like others. If i knew i would have money each month maybe I could go do more stuff, but as is i have to be careful what i spend cause it won't be replaced and once gone its gone. I fear that day when I have no option to leave my house.

Edit: most of my clothes were last bought in 2008 except some shirts from a year and half ago. and boots i bought when i was 25 to replace my aging pair.

oh and if i work 32 hours at the store i get 50 dollar gift card for the store only so i've bought a keyboard, mouse, waterbottle and birthday gifts for people that way.

I don't really understand where you get money for a PS4 if it's all used up. Though it's not really any of my business. But priorities.

but are you usually right? i mean i've been hurt by people I thought and seemed to be really good people.
can't think of anyone i've felt like that. some people are very rude and mean upfront so i don't like them.

well if people on another forum i am on are good representatives of humans as they say they are, then apparently most people are out for themselves and willing to hurt others to gain success. .the told me I'm either a liar or a freak for not being that way.