Are Women taught to be prejudiced against Aspie men?

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I'd really doubt that in my opinion Lol

In regards to the op, maybe a bit.

If I brought home some socially awkward guy with no ambition my mother would waste not time in trying to get me to dump him.

It depends. Media perhaps has an input? Or women are simply not attracted to no social skills?

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Jeez, cut the apron strings!

Yes. We have lessons on how to spot Aspie traits and we all watch propoganda videos in school where we learn that Aspie men are barely above animals.

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How would I make cupcakes then?

Yes, my parents have an influence on what I do, but only because I value their opinions. Fact remains, if I didn't agree with them deep down, I would not consider their advice. Please don't assume I live in their pockets. I said my mother would "try to get me to dump him", I didn't say "I do everything my mother says".

hahaha wut... yeah, I mean, obviously every female in the world is indoctrinated from the age of 4.

Of course not. It's just that most of the personality traits associated with Asperger's are the ultimate repellent to neurotypical females by nature. Awkwardness, inability to adapt to new situations, obsessiveness... yeah, we're all every woman's dream guy haha

I don't agree with the theory of Aspies having an extreme male brain because we don't have stereotypical guy interests & s#ck with things that typical guys are good at. Us Aspies would be LOT better at picking up women if we had extreme male brains.

Because all women are hypocrites.

I've met some who are the exact opposite, hating all but aspie males, just saying.

Yep. I think its more of a 'confidence/aggressiveness' display that is played out usually through social skills (rather than thumping our chests and howling). There are plenty of antisocial jerks that women tend to swarm over because of said display.

You had a thread where you reviewed the dating profiles of people... go take a look at women's profiles and spot the #1 thing they all are looking for...it will either be ' a guy that can have a conversation' or 'confident man'.



Nah, its biologically wired. Normally a high degree of aggressiveness/confidence display is linked to 'good' levels of testosterone in the male. If we had no technology this feature is a highly desirable survival trait. Females of any species are generally attracted to the male that best provides the things she needs..for human females it's always been resources and safety. Since those two things can't be 'seen' on the guy the best indicator of them is that of the social display of aggressiveness/assertive(confident) behavior patterns.

In modern times the confidence part is still highly sought after since it is the one still-invisible feature. Resources you can spot on a guy easily enough and the larger the gap is between her and his resources the more likely (M>F)or less likely (F>M) she is to choose him.

After all, don't we males always go for the physical attractive ones as priority?

A couple issues here:

A lot of what attracts people (and animals) to each other is biologically-based, as in "will this person produce good healthy offspring with me?". So when someone has a "genetic-defect" such as an autism spectrum disorder, they will be considered less attractive than a "normal" or "healthy" person. People don't need to know you have AS to intuitively believe there is something abnormal going on, and thus my produce abnormal children.

Second, most woman gain a lot of satisfaction from affective exchanges, which people with AS people are notoriously underdeveloped in. So even if a woman finds someone with AS handsome and interesting, she might find something missing when it comes to their interaction, and a NT person who may be less good looking or have a lamer career may do a lot better with women because he mirrors and reacts to her affective states more readily.

I am a NT woman dating an aspie and while there is a lot of amazing things about my partner there have been some really fustrsting moments too. When someone first said to me to think of it as extreme male brain that was actually the first time I started putting myself in his shoes and trying to see the situation from his perspective. I don't know much about the science behind that phrase and I know it's a lot more complicated than just acting male but it was a helpful thing to hear when I first started dating my aspie. Kind of like baby steps to learning that there were fundamental differences in the way we think.

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