I believe every one has "Their other Half"

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"I've heard from a lot of friends about the "Significant other/soul mate/helpmate" concept...What I'd like to know is, How do I actually know "When I've met her" and know "When to stop there and no longer have to look" as in Concrete ways...

You need a dowsing stick.

Sounds rather idealistic but, I find that you just...know. It's usually very intense when you find someone you just resonate with.

I'm 100% certain I already found her....unfortunately it's highly unlikely she'll ever have any feelings for me beyond being my very best friend.

I'm still looking for my siamese twin. He owes me a kidney.

Well then, she isn't the one. If she were your soulmate, she would return your love. Since she doesn't love you back, she's just an unrequited crush.




OP, by the way, "helpmate" is not a noun. Helpmate is a widely-used word that does not actually exist. It gets on my nerves when people use it, so I like explaining to them why it is wrong. Stop reading now if you don't want to be lectured.

Allow me to explain:

"Helpmate" is based on a mis-hearing of the pronunciation of the (also non-existent) word "helpmeet."

"Helpmeet" is in turn based on a misreading of a key verse from the book of Genesis. The misreading led to the popular yet mistaken idea that the two words "help" and "meet" found there form a single compound noun. They don't form any such thing, but it was too late. Thanks to that misreading, the non-existent yet popular noun "helpmeet" had now entered the English language.

In the King James Bible, it says God made Eve as an "help meet" for Adam. "Help" and "meet" are actually two separate words. The word "help" is actually a noun, as in "helper." The word "meet" is actually an old-fashioned English adjective, meaning "suitable." So the two words "help meet" are actually conveying the meaning "suitable helper." A female soulmate is therefore best defined in modern biblical English as being a "suitable helper" for a man.

At the time when the KJV translation was written, the statement that Eve was "an help meet" for Adam would have made perfect sense to readers and listeners, but the problem is that the vocabulary of the King James Bible is now outdated. Most people nowadays do not understand old English. They don't know that "meet" used to be an adjective meaning "suitable." They think that "meet" is only a verb. So when modern-day people read the two words "help" and "meet" one after the other, they don't recognise the meaning. For some reason, their brains assume that the two are both one word. They aren't.

So it's better to say "suitable helper," but if you absolutely insist on using KJV English, the correct way for you to write the expression would be "help meet." You should write them as two separate words, because in English we don't (or at least, we shouldn't) merge nouns into adjectives.

It would be a difficultworld and an annoyinghabit if everybody merged nouns and adjectives all the time.

Just think: it would soon get on your sensitivenerves and annoy you if you saw people writing separatewords as though they were compoundwords, when really they aren't. Just from reading this annoyingparagraph, you can see that it would be an annoyingmistake if people insisted on joining up all nounsandadjectives. You would soon want to point out their innocentyetappallingmistakes to them.

Now you know how I feel every time I see people writing "helpmeet." It makes me sad.

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/helpmeet

I don't believe in Soul Mates (as in, there is only ONE person who is right for you). I actually believe it can be detrimental to having a good relationship, as the temptation to believe 'this person must not be the right one' if there are ever any difficulties that crop up. Lots of people are compatible, but it takes finding someone who is as willing to give 100% as you are, which imo is the hardest part.

you will either find or not find a soul mate if you believe in the idea of soul mates, and your happiness will hinge on your success or failure. accepting this category of thought can lead, imo, to suffering.

or you can be open to the infinite potentiality and complexity of all human relationships and realize that there are better or worse relationship possibilities for you at different times in your life as you change and grow, and that every dead end and disappointment can lead to another different more beautiful path to walk. there is an openness required to traverse new emotional and erotic landscapes. this also requires i think an openness to the possibility of things ending. nothing, not even our lives, lasts forever.

maybe i'm just rationalizing my cynicism.

and to newageretrohippie - maybe you should tell her how you feel. she might be thinking the same thing as you. it might be the scariest thing you ever do but life is so short. have you thought about it?

I use to believe in that, but logic over ruled it. like what if you have a soul mate but shes Chinese. you're never meet. kinda like the Simpsons episode, where moes soul mate hangs her self after giving up finding love.

There are going to be 2 types, that will definitely make you turn your head. Both will seem great, actually no wait, the first one, is going to seem excellent and as time passes, later that person will just want to rip your throat out... Then you believe the problem is yours. The 2nd one is going to be the interesting at first, then later on become annoying and then later adorable. Tada!

It's overly sentimental and it only happens in disney movies.