Sooooo...... How do I tell an Aspie guy that I LIKE him?

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xkandakex
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12 Mar 2014, 11:22 pm

Literally say, "I like you."

Look, it's already hard enough for us to figure out what the hell people are feeling. It would be a godsend if someone would just be literal and speak their mind for once.

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12 Mar 2014, 11:29 pm

^^^
QFT :thumleft:

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13 Mar 2014, 1:46 am

totally lost in translation on me when i was at school. any girl who said they liked me (in school) must be ****ing with me anyone who tells me a girl likes me must be ****ing with me.

i didn't mean a freakin love letter just something nice and simple

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13 Mar 2014, 1:59 am

the_alchemist wrote:

I can relate to that. The literalism is an opener. It's all trust building from there. Over vast amounts of time. Trust me, when you're in it with an aspie, you're in it for a long haul...because after two years we're still wondering if you're telling the truth.

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13 Mar 2014, 2:02 am

you know what i mean? cheers

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13 Mar 2014, 4:42 am

If he's an Aspie tell him. Don't play any of the NT ritualistic dating/mating dances, so to speak. I once had someone (non-AS) become frustrated because they were giving "signals" (whatever the hell that's supposed to be?) and I didn't pick up on it. There's a time and a place for everything but being polite and direct will go far.

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13 Mar 2014, 10:03 am

GiantKitten wrote:

Any advice on how I should tell my crush that I think we should date? We both have Aspergers and absolutely hate it when our classmates talk,talk,talk,talk talk IN THE MIDDLE OF CLASS about things that have nothing to do with class. How should I go about this without embarrassing myself or him? We also have a lot of other things in common.

Since you both have it, ask yourself how you would like to be told if HE was in your shoes.

Honestly I think it would be super-easy. Just go up and tell him matter of factly.

'I like you, we should go out and get to know each other better what do you think?'

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13 Mar 2014, 10:22 am

This happens to me:

She: I like you
Me: You're joking?
She: Yes I'm joking, duh.
Me: Oh ok. Go on with my business

Later that day, wondering, what did she mean?

Next day
Me: Did you mean you like me?
She: Yeah I was joking.
Me: Oh, so you don't want to get a coffee?
She: Thanks, but I have to buy a gift for a friend.
Me: Why?
She: Because of her Birthday
Me: Oh ok

She never speaks to me again.

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13 Mar 2014, 3:04 pm

eventually, after several decades treading water, I realized this world doesn't want or need my genes. just as well.

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15 Mar 2014, 10:36 pm

Thank you all for the advice. Half of you have given me great advice. The other half have posted the most unusual replies I could possibly imagine being replied to my question. Again thank you.

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