26 Feb 2014, 5:41 pm
Dantac wrote:
Hope it has changes since then but still... my .2 cents:
That is what you think, in your mind. Unless you have people throwing rotten fruit at you when you walk the streets you really don't know what other's think
Can you be more specific? I've known people say they have difficult characters when in reality they were simply not able to fit in socially because of anxiety issues.
Which could indicate social anxiety issues typical of AS.
5.I have 10 cats.
That means there be no mice where you live
Not a problem. Most people you'd meet at nightclubs are hyper social ...which would be highly incompatible with you anyway.
That is a very strong statement and it shows a high level of maturity to admit it. I will dare guess that you mean you want emotional intimacy a lot more and certainly before the physical. NT's apparently do the physical first and then the emotional.
This is the Age of the Geek! Personally I find nothing sexier than a girl that is nerdy. Let others keep the bovine tits 'n ass beer binge girls... I'll take the one in the corner getting the newest high score on her cellphone game.
That is an AS issue. Its not that critical..if they're bored with you then that is their problem not yours!
I'm Colombian so for me, if you know how to make coffee you qualify as 'knows how to cook'.
seriously now though, that is not an issue either. Question is.. do you hate to cook or is it that you've not had the chance to spend time learning or have someone teach you? Most people hate to cook food but love to cook pastries/sweets/baking.
Clumsy is cute. Just don't be juggling-knives-oops type of clumsy.
Cleanliness is a matter of individuality. My room too looks like the aftermath of a nuclear war...but I keep my kitchen spotless and perfectly organized. My personal space is for me... I like my mess and I know where my stuff is. Kitchen for me is something more 'social' and since I love to cook I do want it to be tidy.
14.I have no life expirience.
15.i am very stubborn in life,but in sex I want to be dominated and I live in montenegro where is no one like that.I checked registrations on personal ads,and only people from montenegro are just too old for me.
You're just 18 now you're supposed to start getting life experience from now on.
Your sexual preference hints that you have had previous relationships and sexual experience which tells me you can connect with people even if perhaps they just end up using you. Maybe none got to be the BF you wanted.... so take that which you learned and try to avoid people like those and seek the right one.
amapola wrote:
1.everyone hates me.
That is what you think, in your mind. Unless you have people throwing rotten fruit at you when you walk the streets you really don't know what other's think
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2.I have difficult character.
Can you be more specific? I've known people say they have difficult characters when in reality they were simply not able to fit in socially because of anxiety issues.
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3.I don`t know absolutely nothing about forming real life relationships
4.I have absolutely no friends.
4.I have absolutely no friends.
Which could indicate social anxiety issues typical of AS.
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5.I have 10 cats.
That means there be no mice where you live
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6.I don`t like going to nightclubs.
Not a problem. Most people you'd meet at nightclubs are hyper social ...which would be highly incompatible with you anyway.
Quote:
7.I have high expectations from love
That is a very strong statement and it shows a high level of maturity to admit it. I will dare guess that you mean you want emotional intimacy a lot more and certainly before the physical. NT's apparently do the physical first and then the emotional.
Quote:
8.I am a real nerd.
10.I am a nerd
10.I am a nerd
This is the Age of the Geek! Personally I find nothing sexier than a girl that is nerdy. Let others keep the bovine tits 'n ass beer binge girls... I'll take the one in the corner getting the newest high score on her cellphone game.
Quote:
9.I don`t notice when people are bored with me.
That is an AS issue. Its not that critical..if they're bored with you then that is their problem not yours!
Quote:
11.I don`t know to cook anything except tea and coffee.
I'm Colombian so for me, if you know how to make coffee you qualify as 'knows how to cook'.
seriously now though, that is not an issue either. Question is.. do you hate to cook or is it that you've not had the chance to spend time learning or have someone teach you? Most people hate to cook food but love to cook pastries/sweets/baking.
Quote:
12.I am really clumsy.
13.my bedroom looks like the bomb has fallen in it.
13.my bedroom looks like the bomb has fallen in it.
Clumsy is cute. Just don't be juggling-knives-oops type of clumsy.
Cleanliness is a matter of individuality. My room too looks like the aftermath of a nuclear war...but I keep my kitchen spotless and perfectly organized. My personal space is for me... I like my mess and I know where my stuff is. Kitchen for me is something more 'social' and since I love to cook I do want it to be tidy.
Quote:
14.I have no life expirience.
15.i am very stubborn in life,but in sex I want to be dominated and I live in montenegro where is no one like that.I checked registrations on personal ads,and only people from montenegro are just too old for me.
You're just 18 now you're supposed to start getting life experience from now on.
Your sexual preference hints that you have had previous relationships and sexual experience which tells me you can connect with people even if perhaps they just end up using you. Maybe none got to be the BF you wanted.... so take that which you learned and try to avoid people like those and seek the right one.
No,I never had a relationship .I have never been on a date.I know what my preferences are because I watched some things on internet,television..etc...
26 Feb 2014, 11:22 pm
27 Feb 2014, 10:21 am
amapola wrote:
Dantac wrote:
Hope it has changes since then but still... my .2 cents:
That is what you think, in your mind. Unless you have people throwing rotten fruit at you when you walk the streets you really don't know what other's think
Can you be more specific? I've known people say they have difficult characters when in reality they were simply not able to fit in socially because of anxiety issues.
Which could indicate social anxiety issues typical of AS.
5.I have 10 cats.
That means there be no mice where you live
Not a problem. Most people you'd meet at nightclubs are hyper social ...which would be highly incompatible with you anyway.
That is a very strong statement and it shows a high level of maturity to admit it. I will dare guess that you mean you want emotional intimacy a lot more and certainly before the physical. NT's apparently do the physical first and then the emotional.
This is the Age of the Geek! Personally I find nothing sexier than a girl that is nerdy. Let others keep the bovine tits 'n ass beer binge girls... I'll take the one in the corner getting the newest high score on her cellphone game.
That is an AS issue. Its not that critical..if they're bored with you then that is their problem not yours!
I'm Colombian so for me, if you know how to make coffee you qualify as 'knows how to cook'.
seriously now though, that is not an issue either. Question is.. do you hate to cook or is it that you've not had the chance to spend time learning or have someone teach you? Most people hate to cook food but love to cook pastries/sweets/baking.
Clumsy is cute. Just don't be juggling-knives-oops type of clumsy.
Cleanliness is a matter of individuality. My room too looks like the aftermath of a nuclear war...but I keep my kitchen spotless and perfectly organized. My personal space is for me... I like my mess and I know where my stuff is. Kitchen for me is something more 'social' and since I love to cook I do want it to be tidy.
14.I have no life expirience.
15.i am very stubborn in life,but in sex I want to be dominated and I live in montenegro where is no one like that.I checked registrations on personal ads,and only people from montenegro are just too old for me.
You're just 18 now you're supposed to start getting life experience from now on.
Your sexual preference hints that you have had previous relationships and sexual experience which tells me you can connect with people even if perhaps they just end up using you. Maybe none got to be the BF you wanted.... so take that which you learned and try to avoid people like those and seek the right one.
amapola wrote:
1.everyone hates me.
That is what you think, in your mind. Unless you have people throwing rotten fruit at you when you walk the streets you really don't know what other's think
Quote:
2.I have difficult character.
Can you be more specific? I've known people say they have difficult characters when in reality they were simply not able to fit in socially because of anxiety issues.
Quote:
3.I don`t know absolutely nothing about forming real life relationships
4.I have absolutely no friends.
4.I have absolutely no friends.
Which could indicate social anxiety issues typical of AS.
Quote:
5.I have 10 cats.
That means there be no mice where you live
Quote:
6.I don`t like going to nightclubs.
Not a problem. Most people you'd meet at nightclubs are hyper social ...which would be highly incompatible with you anyway.
Quote:
7.I have high expectations from love
That is a very strong statement and it shows a high level of maturity to admit it. I will dare guess that you mean you want emotional intimacy a lot more and certainly before the physical. NT's apparently do the physical first and then the emotional.
Quote:
8.I am a real nerd.
10.I am a nerd
10.I am a nerd
This is the Age of the Geek! Personally I find nothing sexier than a girl that is nerdy. Let others keep the bovine tits 'n ass beer binge girls... I'll take the one in the corner getting the newest high score on her cellphone game.
Quote:
9.I don`t notice when people are bored with me.
That is an AS issue. Its not that critical..if they're bored with you then that is their problem not yours!
Quote:
11.I don`t know to cook anything except tea and coffee.
I'm Colombian so for me, if you know how to make coffee you qualify as 'knows how to cook'.
seriously now though, that is not an issue either. Question is.. do you hate to cook or is it that you've not had the chance to spend time learning or have someone teach you? Most people hate to cook food but love to cook pastries/sweets/baking.
Quote:
12.I am really clumsy.
13.my bedroom looks like the bomb has fallen in it.
13.my bedroom looks like the bomb has fallen in it.
Clumsy is cute. Just don't be juggling-knives-oops type of clumsy.
Cleanliness is a matter of individuality. My room too looks like the aftermath of a nuclear war...but I keep my kitchen spotless and perfectly organized. My personal space is for me... I like my mess and I know where my stuff is. Kitchen for me is something more 'social' and since I love to cook I do want it to be tidy.
Quote:
14.I have no life expirience.
15.i am very stubborn in life,but in sex I want to be dominated and I live in montenegro where is no one like that.I checked registrations on personal ads,and only people from montenegro are just too old for me.
You're just 18 now you're supposed to start getting life experience from now on.
Your sexual preference hints that you have had previous relationships and sexual experience which tells me you can connect with people even if perhaps they just end up using you. Maybe none got to be the BF you wanted.... so take that which you learned and try to avoid people like those and seek the right one.
No,I never had a relationship .I have never been on a date.I know what my preferences are because I watched some things on internet,television..etc...
The television is mostly a realm of fiction. Television shows are all about drama. If they were to show a real relationship no one would watch. Depending on your sources on the internet it depends as well too. Also, preferences change. Sometimes when you get what you think was really important in a relationship you find out that it is not that important after all.
Being Aspie it can make dating a little more complex but again, you are very young and you still have much to learn and experience in life. Please, stop measuring your life by what you see on TV/internet. You will be very unhappy if you do.
27 Feb 2014, 10:53 am
amapola wrote:
No,I never had a relationship .I have never been on a date.I know what my preferences are because I watched some things on internet,television..etc...
I assumed wrong then, sorry about that. However, you are still 18 and there are many things you've yet to live and discover. I would suggest having some cognitive therapy to help you improve your social skills. It is not a shrink-type 'I'm here to complain and someone to listen to me' type of therapy but rather one where you sit down and are shown videos and examples of social cues like subtle body language, gestures, voice tone changes, the unspoken social 'rules' ...all these things those with AS are apparently blind to. You also get in some practice doing those things yourself to improve your skills.
It is not a solution but it does help a lot empowering you with the knowledge of what it is that is malfunctioning when you socialize and you can do some pre-emptive changes in yourself to help you along.
You mentioned seeking personal ads... that could be risky for you. May I suggest first joining some activity groups or doing some volunteer work in things you enjoy? Its a great way to meet people with similar interests
27 Feb 2014, 10:59 am
Dantac wrote:
amapola wrote:
No,I never had a relationship .I have never been on a date.I know what my preferences are because I watched some things on internet,television..etc...
I assumed wrong then, sorry about that. However, you are still 18 and there are many things you've yet to live and discover. I would suggest having some cognitive therapy to help you improve your social skills. It is not a shrink-type 'I'm here to complain and someone to listen to me' type of therapy but rather one where you sit down and are shown videos and examples of social cues like subtle body language, gestures, voice tone changes, the unspoken social 'rules' ...all these things those with AS are apparently blind to. You also get in some practice doing those things yourself to improve your skills.
It is not a solution but it does help a lot empowering you with the knowledge of what it is that is malfunctioning when you socialize and you can do some pre-emptive changes in yourself to help you along.
You mentioned seeking personal ads... that could be risky for you. May I suggest first joining some activity groups or doing some volunteer work in things you enjoy? Its a great way to meet people with similar interests
I concur. Personal ads are okay but its better to meet people in actual groups and activities. What are your interests OP? Are you in high school or college? There are TONS of organizations to join in the 18-25 group and while I would steer clear of social organizations (sororities and the like) there are a lot of special interest clubs around.
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