Girls, how strict are you when it comes to looks?

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Speaking as a 19 year old male, looks don't matter at all. People tend to be with people who are similar on the "10 point scale" you see in movies, i.e. a 6 goes for a 6 and a 3 for a 3 etc. so you could be considered really ugly and still find someone so even when looks matter to people they tend to pick someone close to them on the scale so everyone can find someone (or so I think).


For me though as I am more a "settle down type" if you know what I mean, intelligence and personality are bigger factors. I want a girl to have a passion for something, absolutely anything that she wants to tell me all about - something that really gets her going. Any sort of hobby, something I know she does just for her. I also really love an intelligent girl, if I am planning to spend my life with a girl then I want to know we can have interesting conversations. I'd definitely take a girl like that over a prosaic beauty queen.

Following up on some of the other comments, yes, I have to find the other person attractive to be interested. But there have been times I've been initially attracted to someone's personality (but not his looks) and that evolved into a serious relationship with me believing he was the best-looking guy in the world.

It really is more about that elusive "chemistry" than anything else. This is the down side to internet dating - you don't get to test it until you've already invested a fair amount of time. The up side is that you don't get lured into a relationship because of a "spark" at a chance meeting with someone you know nothing about and who turns out to be completely unsuitable for you (the story of my life, bar one).

^^^No,you are just condensed.

In rural areas men and women seem to be more tolerant of people with a few extra pounds.In some cultures I suppose men like plumper women,I had a doctor from Peru and when I told him I wanted to lose some weight,he got this look of horror and said "oh,no."His idea of an attractive weight was a woman plumper than what the majority of American men find desirable.

I think good looks in a man are desirable, but can be ruined by an oversized ego, a nasty personality, or a lack of grooming.

Bad news: Of course looks matter.
Good news: Judging by my memories of mealtime discussion panels in college (aka people I sat with/who sat with me), "good looks" could mean any number of things.

Further elaboration:
At my table the following were considered physically attractive in a man:
-lots of muscles, like a body builder
-no muscles
-a bit of pudge
-scrawniness
-goth makeup
-a five o'clock shadow
-military haircut
-styled hair
-long Renaissance style locks
-strong square jaw
-boyish facial features
-a cute butt
-nice shoulders
-rippling abs
-nerd glasses
-baggy pants
-classic khakis
-pretty hands
-sweet eyes
-a perfect smile
-a slightly imperfect smile (small gap between front teeth or one tilted incisor)
-really tall ("several inches taller than me, preferably," said the female basketball player at the table)
-"same height as me, but shorter is OK, I just can't stand much taller than me"
-"same height as me, but taller is OK, I just can't stand shorter than me"
-blue eyes
-brown eyes
-green eyes
-hazel eyes
-dyed hair
-straight hair
-curly hair
-brown hair
-black hair
-blonde hair
-red hair
-pale skin (so pale you can practically see through it)
-dark skin (so dark that it's as close to true black that human skin can get)
-my color or a little darker/lighter than me
-bearded
-completely shaved, like, completely
-like a leading man from one of those old black and white films
-like (name of any number of male celebrities)



Basically the only thing we could all agree on physically was that he should be clean and have good breath.