"I like a woman who takes care of herself"

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There is no urban life where I live. In fact, unless you live in an apartment or condo a block from where you work (almost impossible to do here), just surviving here is a fairly regular workout!

Believe me, Beirut has its very dangerous 'jungles' but not the green jungles you're thinking of.

It's not dangerous here (unless you happen to run into a mountain lion or an angry mama bear), just strenuous. A lot of people (even people as young as their 30s) can't survive here without being on oxygen. Battling the snow 4-6 months out of the year. Trying to stay warm. Walking on pavement/sidewalks that are in constant disrepair from the frost heave every winter. Or walking on uneven dirt/gravel/rocky paths. Getting to and from your car without slipping on the ice. Trying to keep anything clean (it's either dust storms or mud). Trying to keep your lawn/garden alive in the summer.

Western Colorado is not a place for couch potatoes, the elderly, or anyone with respiratory problems.

I wouldn't put that in a dating site, but it is something I find myself thinking.

What I mean with "taking care of themselves" is that I like women who don't need and expect me, or anyone else, to solve their problems, or in other words, who aren't damsels in distress who must be rescued and contribute nothing towards that rescue. I once met a woman like that and she is one of the people I've gotten along with the worst.

I think it's possible that more of the younger generation are into looks, health, hard bodies, fashion, etc. I don't know if it's strictly an age thing, or a generational thing, or a media thing.

I do know that as I've aged, I've learned that what's on the inside is more important than what's on the outside. To me, "taking care of yourself" means being a whole person and being comfortable in your own skin. That includes being conscious of one's own health and well-being, but it does not include taking great pains with one's appearance. To me, while certainly a minimum standard of cleanliness/neatness is desirable, the more time a man spends on his wardrobe and grooming, the less interest I have in him. I actually like a somewhat disheveled look. Again, that may be an age/generation thing.

I actually do like a woman to maintain good health, but I'm not so strict that I'd reject someone for gaining 30 pounds in the last year. In my opinion, many women are too thin anyway; I prefer curves any day of the week.

I don't look at guys so I don't know how often they say that, but I can tell you 80% of women use a similar line. which is a problem considering the usa's trend into fatter and fatter people. there simply isn't enough find, handsome, fit, interesting, nice people to fufill demand.

also yeah you're right boo, but also even the unhealthy , obese women want the guy that "takes care of himself"

beyond my own love life, the trend is scary. so many single women starting to feel hopeless but there simiply isn't the supply of those type of men. Apparently they can't change thier dreams and wants, so where does this leave them.

It does seem that obesity hits men more then women. the thin women to fat men ration is quite even where I live. not to say there isn't fit men, but they have tons of fit women to choose from, so unless they start having 5 gfs at a time 4 women per fit guy will be alone. I would find it fun to do a stud on the situation.

Yay for the "Love and Dating" red flags in profiles topics!

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"Taking care of herself" could also mean she has to provide her own orgasms.

Since we're on the subject of codewords. "Average-looking" seems to often be an L&D codeword for semi-ugly at least part of the time.