Girls, how strict are you when it comes to looks?

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I am having a Tim Tex moment when I say...

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All good looking guys who easily get women aren't a***holes though, that's the point.

A friend of mine called a guy I said I was going on a date with a "tool" without knowing anything about the guy except seeing his picture.

The guy must be cis and not be so overweight he can barely walk and move, not be too old for me like in his 40's, (that will change soon given that I am getting older so my preferred age range will change too) but I am not very picky about looks. All I care about is their personality and they have to be clean.

Some people just generally look like freaking tools, even when they aren't in reality.

Looks are somewhat important. It's part of what makes you sexually attracted to someone, and that's necessary for a long term relationship. That said, I think that someone who is understanding, compassionate, interesting, and funny, makes a much better partner than someone who is simply attractive. I've dated a variety of people, ranging from very attractive but boring, to quite average an very interesting. I've got the fondest memories of the interesting people. My husband is probably an average looker (trying not be biased), but he's wonderful. I wouldn't exchange him for the best looking man on earth. I hope that helps.

This guy did not look like a tool. He looked polite and genuine. He was simply called a "tool" because he was very handsome. I think a lot of labelling of guys done by other guys is out of jealousy.

I think I look like a screwdriver.

Imao, aren't you the one who cheated on her bf with her drunky-player neighbor?

I have a tool box for it.

Yup jealousy in this case, although my previous statement is also true in a lot of cases and not only guys can look like "tools".

true and not saying they are, though there are a decent amount of shallow men who cause they are super good looking think it means they are better and deserve things just for looking good. I've meet both kinds. I don't think body can be used to define a person. To some extent clothing maybe but that's tricky. You can't assume all good looking guys are prince charmings either which seems to be the attitude of some women I've talked to.

I know a few ugly as*holes. Nobody I know anymore would be considered great looking though.

I am jealous of good looks though, I'd probably get plastic surgery if I could afford it, but then I don't know if i could handle looking in the mirror and seeing someone else. I guess it'd pay off in the long run then.

I never thought that looks were very important until now. I don't know what changed. Perhaps I got real or maybe my standards rose without me realising it. Anyway. I realised that looks are pretty important when you think "I'll have to kiss that face" I mean I'm not looking for a supermodel; but I don't want a qozymoto either. There are all types of guys and there are all types I like but here are some basic don'ts:

Acne (that's anywhere boys, one or two is fine but don't be a poker face)
Beards (facial hair is never attractive)
Fat (being a little pudgy is fine but there is a point where you can't get over it)
Too little or too much muscle (now this one is a toughy, no one wants a stick but no one wants a muscle with eyes. Use at your own discretion. I personally like a man who's thin with just enough muscle to show.)

Anyway, in conclusion, I admit I'm a little concerned with looks. I'm a little shallow but Im also up for a range of bodytypes. So again it's all up to the girl.

^ Woah, you sure have made some sweeping statements about what NOBODY wants. Be careful with wording like that because aspies are often literal thinkers and might believe what you're saying is true, when it's really just speculation.

The member is talking about their own preferences, not other people's.

Which is why I said what I said, because she said "no one wants" this and "no one wants" that. When I read that, I read it as it is written, and assume other aspies would too. Quite disheartening to a person who fits those categories mentioned, if they take it seriously. *shrug*

Not cheating. We have an open relationship. He already knows about it. It's a non-issue.