Youtube: Video teaching social skills used in Dating

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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WyiJCGBggw[/youtube]You might have seen this before. I found this video guide to body language and gestures used in dating on Youtube, in this case it tells you how to tell if a girl is attracted to you. Someone called VideoJug post a series of short clips on this subject.

www.videoJug.com

Link: VideoJug in Youtube

That was pretty good but for some real depth, look at David de Angelo's DVD series.

Have they got one for women as well?

Well this would work I guess...unless of course the girl's an aspie.

Yes it has been created to help understand NT women. I would be interested to know how much of it applies to AS women. I assume a courtship would be more straight forward and honest?

O…so when someone touches (how this lady did) you you’re not supposed grasp their hand firmly, finally make eye contact (with the look of a demon) and warn ‘what the hell are you doing?’ I now see my error…. I love formal situations where women overtly go to tap your hand/whatever but quickly retract 'cause they know the situation is completely professional.

It's easy to see it, hard to control it and even harder to do it. This applies to everyone and everything.

A question: does the early stage of the [physical] courtship process seem a little…uh, superficial to anyone else? Yes, I know I have a “problem” in that I cannot see the purpose of said processes; well I can see the desired purpose, but I cannot see how such an overwhelming effect can come about due to such an innate and minute gesture as touching or complimenting someone.

I can put a million metaphors to petrified paper that’s made of simile; yet the effect of this is nowhere near as obtuse to a great many of humans compared to these magical physical gestures.

It’s simply magic.

All I have to say to you is study the material. It will answer all your questions.

I just want to add as well for anyone browsing this thread that make think it's weird to study this stuff. If the person you are with is worth keeping around and they discover that you have studied these types of materials they will think it's cool and appreciate it. If it offends them then get rid of them, guaranteed it is better in the long run. Just don't go out with someone and say something like, "Wait, hold up, I have to try this neat thing on you..." If you see what I'm saying.

I was drunk when I first met my wife, but I know that she just started
sucking on my fingers. About the third person who did that, and I had
finally learned that it meant they were probably interested.

It was a little strange watching this...seeing it explained... I finally realized how really "not normal" I really must appear...and all these years I thought I was doing "fairly" well blending in. I guess that's the reason why 90% of my dates bolted for the door all the time.

Keeping score...I failed eye contact, body language, mirroring, touching...and the hair thing...I twirl my hair all the time...doesn't mean anything with me except that I might be nervous with the conversation bit.

I'm actually good with eye contact...but I could never hold a gaze like that...especially not on the first few dates or getting to know someone.

Body language...a lot less open...definitely.

Mirroring...no, I can't say I do this.

Touching...that usually had to be initiated first. There are just personal space boundaries I don't normally cross without an invite.

I heard a good way to see if someone likes you is put your stuff (property) slightly over theirs while they are watching. If they don't move it thay are supposed to like you. But if somebody put their over mine I might move it.

I'd move my stuff before they even settled theirs on top!