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AngelRho
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01 Jul 2014, 5:57 am

I could conceivably go as young as 18, but I think that would have to be a pretty special case to work out. I'm 36, and the idea of that kind of age difference tends to creep a lot of people out.



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13 Jul 2014, 4:28 pm

I have always dated older people, say 8-12 years older than me as I have always been gold I'm mature for my age. I'm now in a very happy relationship with another non NT person who is 23 years older than me, but it doesn't feel like there is a gap to either of us



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13 Jul 2014, 5:22 pm

I am currently non-monogamous and date anywhere in the range of 18-55

... and I don't tend to date around my own age.

Why? When dating someone near my age, it almost always attaches to it societal expectations for how the relationship is supposed to progress, what they are supposed to do together, how they socialize with others, etc. Just by the very nature of dating age extremes, it removes the socialized expectations that comes with it. Thus, it takes someone willing to date outside of their own age to date me, they have already made a decision to date me outside of social expectations and thus breakaway from a socialized relationship trajectory. The actual relationship then can move at its own pace and move in its own direction naturally.


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13 Jul 2014, 5:46 pm

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Funny how the low end of the range tends to be right at the legal age of consent, huh?


Not really, I think the lower age limit has far more to do with maturity than any specific country's "age of consent".

In this country the age of sexual consent is 16, but I'd still have 18 as the general lower age limit.
Well, maybe as I get older it might be slightly older than that by now.
Like, 20 or something.

Hypothetically if the match was good I'd date an 18 year old, but he'd have to be cool with the age difference and stuff.
We'd have to be compatible together and all that, but that's important for a relationship to work anyway.



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14 Jul 2014, 9:14 am

At 37 I would date as low as maybe 28 but as high as maybe 42. A lot of men significantly older then me are saying 18 and above, but I view an 18 year old girl as a kid more than an adult. Usually I date women around my age so in terms of what I do date, around 35 to 40 usually. When I was exercising with a personal trainer, she seemed interested and she was only 27. But she was in extremely good shape, and I was just getting into shape, and I just felt like I wouldn't be able to keep up with her LOL.