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PullBackOnTheStick
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27 Jun 2014, 3:32 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:
In over 95% of my relationships the women ask me out! Im not good at approaching out of fear of rejection and laughed at and fear of being accused of sexual harrassment so I just don't. Yes just asking a woman out for a cup of coffee can be grounds of sexual harrassment even outside of work! Asking a woman out is a gamble and I just don't take those chances!


Surely it's only harrassment if you keep asking someone who has made it clear they're not interested though? i don't see anything wrong with asking somebody to go for a coffee once and leaving it at that if they say no.



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28 Jun 2014, 5:34 pm

PullBackOnTheStick wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
In over 95% of my relationships the women ask me out! Im not good at approaching out of fear of rejection and laughed at and fear of being accused of sexual harrassment so I just don't. Yes just asking a woman out for a cup of coffee can be grounds of sexual harrassment even outside of work! Asking a woman out is a gamble and I just don't take those chances!


Surely it's only harrassment if you keep asking someone who has made it clear they're not interested though? i don't see anything wrong with asking somebody to go for a coffee once and leaving it at that if they say no.


I dunno, there's some weird mentality out there now where some women believe that the mere act of asking them out is harassment in and of itself. I don't get it.



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29 Jun 2014, 3:07 pm

Shebakoby wrote:
PullBackOnTheStick wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
In over 95% of my relationships the women ask me out! Im not good at approaching out of fear of rejection and laughed at and fear of being accused of sexual harrassment so I just don't. Yes just asking a woman out for a cup of coffee can be grounds of sexual harrassment even outside of work! Asking a woman out is a gamble and I just don't take those chances!


Surely it's only harrassment if you keep asking someone who has made it clear they're not interested though? i don't see anything wrong with asking somebody to go for a coffee once and leaving it at that if they say no.


I dunno, there's some weird mentality out there now where some women believe that the mere act of asking them out is harassment in and of itself. I don't get it.


Haha i would probably be so flattered that i would say yes no matter what. I think it depends on how often it happens for those women



creativeconsumption
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19 Jul 2014, 4:09 pm

Probably should've written this a bit sooner.

Found out he is into guys.