Can I really get a "hot" girl?

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I don't get why guys put so much importance in how pretty a girl is. You can really fall in love with a girl's personality. I had it happen multiple times.

If a girl is really unattractive to you (not your type) you should not even try it out really. There needs to be some attraction. I have met girls who are not that good looking but they had beautiful blue eyes which I really liked and I fell for that. Most of the time I fall for girls with a caring personality. If I see a pretty girl bully someone I can't even get off on her anymore after that.

I always say, the prettier the woman, the more danger you have for her cheating on you. You never have a pretty girl alone is what they say here.

Also, most women aren't pretty for long. Guys can get pretty hot when they get older but women are almost always not that pretty when they turn old so how long do you have a pretty girl?

^ If you fall for someone's eyes, or hair or "cuteness" or whatever....all these are still part of looks.

I don't think you can really rank people by how attractive they are. Attractive people aren't necessarily attracted to other attractive people, and i don't mean just physically. It's a bit more complicated, everyone likes different things. Just as an example, many people with eating disorders worry about their appearance constantly (and subsequently, end up quite attractive) - but they might want someone who doesn't make them feel bad about themselves, rather than someone who they percieve as "too good for them".

Everyone's different, and there are a lot of people out there!

There are plenty of other peers my age that have good looking girlfriends. They're pretty lucky guys. I am not being immature or obsessing over it though.

I said the same in my first post so I don't know what your problem is? I do care a little about looks but it is not the main priority? Did I say something that offended you or something? I am a very insecure man and don't lie about it. Why? Did you think I was a stereotypical guy who likes to dominate a girl who is insecure?

I think I'm a little confused by this thread. Is OP simply voicing a concern over possibly not being able to attract a hot girl in the future or is he asking how to achieve this? If it's the first, then holy crap, this is the best example of "first world problems" that I've seen in weeks. If it's the second, then I'd suggest upping your general boyfriend marketability. Develop an attractive personality, learn how to be respectful without being patronizing, practice your social skills and extirpate any awkwardness, learn to be a good conversationalist, work towards setting yourself up for a future in which you have a job, car, and can take care of yourself. Once they grow up, women of any attractiveness level typically don't want just a handsome face, so get this kind of basic stuff down, then when you spot a hot girl you want, you just have to finetune your approach to tailor it towards that specific person. And it may not work. Attraction doesn't always make sense.

The penguin is bluntly right.