The sex & friendship was amazing now I want to die!!

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sorry that happen to you. he was wrong to do that to you

want a ehug?

I'm sorry for your situation.
I think it is not an uncommon one, unfortunately.
Just remember, if someone loves you and wants to be with you, you will have no doubt about that truth. That person will find a way to stay with you. No matter what their family wants, a prior relationship, or anything else.
People like him rely on the good people to make their excuses for them.

To sort of finish the story, she moved in the the boyfriend I thought she was rid of. I stupidly continued the chase until I realized I wasn't going to win. (Yup, I drowned my sorrows with booze after that. The problem was that she wasn't worth the hangovers.) They married in the summer of the next year and she gave birth to their daughter nearly 3 months later. Because she was a foreign grad student, I think she might have used me as a way of staying in the country--it's rather hard to deport the parent of a newly-born citizen.

She recently got tenure at a university at the other end of the country. I assume she's still married to the jerk, though, by now, I think she realizes that he actually is an idiot and that I was clearly the better choice. On the other hand, he's the one who's stuck with her. Better him than me, right?

Actually, after I found out that she was hired by her uni, I started sending her cards for either Christmas or Chinese New Year. I may have lost the competition for her hand, but I can still be gracious, can't I? (On the other hand, who really won, eh? ) However, I usually include one of those annoying what-happened-during-the-year messages just to thumb my nose at her. (I can imagine what might be happening at her home. "See, HE can do that--why can't you? Why did I ever marry you anyway?" Oh, to be a fly on the wall.....)

I tried a few online dating sites after it was over with her, but I wasn't impressed by what I saw. I've been stung too many times to want to try something like that. Besides, the women on those sites see someone like me as a bank: piggy, sperm, or both.

I've taken myself out of the game. At my age, it doesn't matter any more.

My advice, forget he exists as a whole and learn from the experience.

If he was planning on marrying another woman the entire time he didn't love either one of you. Let him make the call, there's nothing you can really do at this point.

Hi Sly279 Thank you and of course I love hugs! If my pillows could talk they'd call me a cuddle monster. lol
Question- I am new to this site (started it today) but if I add my pic can the public see it or how does this work?

Whats your favorite thing(s) to do? Who would you say is the most important in your life and why? Im curious about you all and am super excited about chatting.

I will apologize in advance because I am rather crushed by the guy and I have some many questions in my head like ... rt now I am wondering if he has even thought of me since last wk or did he ever mean it when he always told me that I was so gorgeous and beautiful on the inside & out etc etc blah blah blah lol... Feeling insecure

You're not feeling insecure. You're feeling normal. You've received an emotional wallop and you're still smarting from it. It's going to take a while to get over it, but you can.

hugs. I cuddle a blanket or two depending onf if I feeling like a full body cuddle simulator. though just at least one blanket every night to get to sleep.

you could. not many adds a picture of them. I use stupid fox as my picture. its up to you, for most my time here i had no picture.
I like history, videogames, cars, shooting/guns, board/card games, hiking, camping, swimming, cuddling, wood crafting.
idk I don't have a love life and likely never will,so I don't have a most important person. care alot about my family though.

I went thru that with a woman i talked to on the internet for over a year, and then another I met on okcupid and talked with for 4 months. I don't believe they were truthful when they said they loved me or that I was handsome. I don't know what their game was either. It is likely he thought you were though. i could tell you if you are or not if I saw a picture. but not needed, most women are quite beautiful . I only ever called two gorgeous. though that's cause I have a weird sense of loyalty and feel such a word is only for one woman at a time.

think it would be natural to feel insecure after such things.

ok, i think we all hear the story, Get a hold of yourself?! !! how do women know what man is good for them. sickens me. all this sh***y non sense about women complaining day in and out is just pointless!! i had a long distance relationship with a girl and i basically couldnt stand it no more!!.

About 30 years ago, I carried on a correspondence with a young lady in South America. She got my address from a mutual acquaintance and, for the most part, it was cordial.

I broke it off when it became quite obvious that all she was after was a husband, preferably one in North America and, for all I knew, one who was filthy rich.

(1) Anyone, Aspie or otherwise, who truly loved someone, would not behave this way. (2) When two people have sex it's more than just emotional and physical... it's a joining of the spirits as well. This is why - and call me old fashioned - it's better to wait until marriage. (3) Dump this guy. He's not worthy of you!