Lets face it some NTs do want to date an aspie!

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So hes kinda a perfectionist and a spelling nazi, its ok im an aspie and not a spelling nazi I misspell more often these days not giving a care in the world because I know this is merely the internet and not English class and every blog I make is not some essay thats due on Thursday and expected to be MLA format and double spaced and all that stupid pointless garbage!

That could be said regarding any category of people. I'm a 5' tall woman - some men find that attractive, some don't. It would be foolish for me to think that everyone should find me attractive.

I'm an NT woman married 8 years to an Aspie man. Yes, we have problems at times (black and white thinking, difficulty with touch, sensory issues, etc), but I've never yet met a perfect person, including myself. We have four children and yes, a happy marriage.

One of the Aspie traits that even my friends have commented on is "He doesn't lie. I mean, he just Does. Not. Lie." Once you get used to not asking stuff for which you don't want to hear the answers, it's amazing to be with a man who doesn't lie. Ever.

The good news is many people are shallow in regard to sexual attraction and do not care.. and if you're ASD also includes being an artist, writer or a muso then any eccentricities are blamed on that.

Yeah kinda and then I tell him that it's just a chat and the corrections detract from the conversation aside from other things and he stops for a little bit. xD

Thank you for your support.

For the record, I am a guy though, not much of one, but yeah.

Ummm, no that's not the conclusion at all. What I meant was what I said, that women typically aren't all that aware of autism even if they've heard of it and they most likely wouldn't be able to spot it. You're a person, not a mental disorder, and that's what women see you as. I've met plenty of women that are turned on by eccentricities, otherwise I wouldn't have ever been married (and divorced thank god, hahahaha).

Aaahhhh, MLA format! Such a headache, every history professor I had wanted us to learn another new format and it was a pain in the arse.

How did you two meet?

I'm a Library Grad Student. Yeah.....I detest all forms of citing.

The *short* answer is "through mutual friends" and by total fluke. The long answer would take too long to write out. We weren't even supposed to be in that city at the same time - neither of us lived there! My first impressions of him were really, really awful. I thought he was involved with a really trampy woman. The first time I saw him, he was on some game console and I thought "Ugh, gamer loser." He wore ill-fitting clothes and cheap shoes and a bad haircut. He looked as though a good wind would blow him over. He had so many strikes against him. And then ... we talked. And I found the most *honest*, funny, intelligent, wonderful man I have ever met.

Eight years later, he keeps his hair trimmed neatly when I remind him he needs a haircut, has put on 30 pounds of muscle, wears clothes that fit him and look good on him because I buy them. He works at a sawmill instead of sitting at a desk. He'll still tell you he's a gamer loser at heart, and he really needs 2-3 hours gaming daily to keep sane, but he listens to me when I tell him that some things just are NOT socially acceptable. Honestly, I don't think he really *cares* what is socially acceptable, but he cares what I think. If I were to slack off, he'd eat beans out the tin, wear whatever he could scavenge, bathe once a month and cut his own hair with scissors.

And we have a son who is so much like him. And I'm hoping somewhere there's a special lady who can deal with, and ameliorate the odd way he walks, and his obsession with trains, and his often-nonsensical speech patterns. (He does the rhyming thing when you talk to him, like Fezzik in The Princess Bride).

Ok

I tell you why my NT friend wanted an aspie guy. She wanted an aspie guy because she figured she'd have him waiting for her (emotional security) at home while she ran wild with every NT guy around and didn't have to worry about being used or dumped because she had a claim ticket on this aspie guy. Pretty convenient ego-building, huh? Have your cake and eat it too? Now, that was just the case with her. Everybody's different. Think about it carefully. Sometimes I think that aspies are actually with other aspies and don't know it because of the variations within the asperger's spectrum. I mean if you're social (I mean actually, not just in your head), you need to be with someone who can deal with this. Just because a person genuinely "likes" people doesn't make them social. Social is as social does. Many aspies are social but just in their own heads. Some aspies don't even have their own social memories, they have and share other's memorable moments as if these moments were their own.

Falling in love has nothing to do with whether or not a person is NT or has AS. You just fall in love. I think that's awesome.

Sure. Until they find out their significant other starts to act out on his/her autism. Then it's over.

I am an NT and I am hopelessly in love with my boyfriend who is an Aspie <3

I'm an NT and many guys I've been attracted to have had ASD, or ASD traits (tbh, haven't gotten to know every guy that's caught my eye on a really intimate level), ever since I was little and had a crush on this boy called Josh none of the other girls would talk to. I was about 8, and he was my first love.
I think saying that there are some NT who would date ASD is really really broad, like ASD itself. Obviously there can be ethical issues with low functioning ASD, but mostly surely its just seen as another thing, like eyecolour or something?
Personally, give me an intelligent, built, confident, high functioning aspie and panties will drop. It's not a fetish, there are just something things that really work.