Fear I will never get girlfriend

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Also been a few times where someone did reply and we talked a bit but then they suddenly wont respond why?

For some reason I am afraid my lack of success in OkCupid means I am too messed up to ever get a girlfriend

I hate it when some guys say like over 80 percent of guys with Asperger's never get a girlfriend in their life, sounds like pessimistic thinking to me

Here,s another angle, and please no criticism, I only state this in order to maybe make the OP feel better about his current situation until he does meet the right person.

Last girlfriend I had was 1992 and so I too was in the "I.m never going to get a girlfriend" school of misery.

So I tried OK Cupid, the way I did it was to be truthful about myself, whilst I didn't say I was Aspie I definitely didn't come across as NT.
As a result I got quite a lot of messages, half of which where with Women initiating the conversation. They all said what an interesting profile I had.

Now here's my point.
Only yesterday I was only too pleased to extract myself from the relationship I had formed with a very attractive Woman, first of all sex is nicer in your imagination, like hunger, once you have eaten its not such a big deal.
But the main thing is my life is much better on my own, I thought relationships with the opposite sex where supposed to put a smile on your face, make you feel happy.
What is it with modern Women where they are so selfish and controlling, whingeing and complaining because you dare do some essential work to your home instead of putting every aspect of your life aside so that you can be what they want you to be, to be only available for what they want to do.

Which by the way mainly involves walking around endless shops looking at dresses.
No wonder all the married men at work who found out I joined a dating site told me I was mad, that they envy my singleness and think its what makes me cool, I can see why they say this now.

Why do they think you want to be in the battle of the sexes so that you have to be careful about anything you say because they will consider you are trying to insult them, I should have realised the way things were going to be when I offered an interesting fact about an old buildings structure and was immediately accused of trying to make myself look better than her because I knew something she didnt!

I hate being lonely but I would rather be on my own than stuck with somebody who makes me feel bad.

And yes I know not all Women are like this, the good ones tend to be found and kept however.

^^ see that's the sort of thing that makes me wonder why I'm single. I'd much rather do essential work on the house than go shopping. I would love a guy that would help me paint the house and sand down and re-coat my furniture. I usuallly just get clothes from ebay. I hate shopping.

Britain. Most of my female friends are married to men who enjoy making things or learning music, play guitar, drums etc. I've got one friend who is refurbishing a guitar. My brother in law is always making something. Another likes to fix up cars. Some of us are into sewing. But maybe that's just my social circle. We're in our late 20s/early 30s.

It's a circle of married friends with a few other single women. Our conversations revolve around cooking, reading, music and stuff we find interesting, oh and pets. We just sort of met each other over the years introduced new people into the group and we all live in different towns, it's not like I live in a specific area where we all met.

I sympathise with getting the "exasperated expressions of disdain", I was horrified when my old roommate asked if we should get a painter in to decorate. I was like, no lets go to B&Q or Homebase, get some paint, save a bomb and do it ourselves. She was bemused that I would actually be willing to paint a wall. She seemed quiet bemused that I would actually do housework, cook meals from scratch and gardening as well. Some people seem to think manual labour is beneath them.

must keep thinking positive

the natural order of things often sucks

sadly even hobbies are not enough to get women off a lot of us guys minds

From seeing many posts from aspies, a lot who have relationships or had, that sounds reassuring to know it is possible