Butterfiend
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You seem like a nice looking guy to me 
Ignore those who call you ugly, they are likely insecure in themselves and trying to make themselves feel better by putting down others. And attractiveness is about personality, character traits, qualities, etc, not just physical appearance.
RetroGamer87
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15 Nov 2014, 10:27 pm
Not necessarily. I read an article on psychology that said bullies actually do feel good about themselves and are more likely to go on to lead successful careers because they're more confident.
Hmmm. I wonder if I should grow a beard
16 Nov 2014, 3:16 am
Not necessarily. I read an article on psychology that said bullies actually do feel good about themselves and are more likely to go on to lead successful careers because they're more confident.
Hmmm. I wonder if I should grow a beard
I don't think having my beard helps me at all. beards probably look good on people already considered attractive though.
the bullies from my school have seemed to be more successful.
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You look fine and there's nothing wrong with beards or facial hair, people who are offensive or nonconstructive must have insecurity themselves.
I use a stubble trimmer from time to time since I find beards take a lot of shampooing and conditioning to stay nice.
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I'm not sure I agree with this. At least where I grew up, the bullies were often the popular kids who had their looks, but not much else going on upstairs. The "nerds"/Aspies have mostly gone on to do things. Some great things, some interesting things, and some just things... but more than the bullies who just ended up marrying other idiots from our high school and never leaving our home town. I got bullied badly back then. It was before physical bullying was a "no tolerance" thing. When I went to my reunion, everyone wanted to talk to me because all of a sudden, I was way more interesting than anyone they knew. I kind of enjoyed it. I even got invited to weddings of people who never would have given me the time of day back then. I don't resent anyone who likes me now... people grow up, and I get to feel like I won.
Edit: I forgot to answer your question, Butterfiend. You're super cute. Your bullies are probably jealous.
The_Face_of_Boo
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16 Nov 2014, 4:19 pm
I'm not sure I agree with this. At least where I grew up, the bullies were often the popular kids who had their looks, but not much else going on upstairs. The "nerds"/Aspies have mostly gone on to do things. Some great things, some interesting things, and some just things... but more than the bullies who just ended up marrying other idiots from our high school and never leaving our home town. I got bullied badly back then. It was before physical bullying was a "no tolerance" thing. When I went to my reunion, everyone wanted to talk to me because all of a sudden, I was way more interesting than anyone they knew. I kind of enjoyed it. I even got invited to weddings of people who never would have given me the time of day back then. I don't resent anyone who likes me now... people grow up, and I get to feel like I won.
Edit: I forgot to answer your question, Butterfiend. You're super cute. Your bullies are probably jealous.
It depends on the success (or significant improvement in looks) you eventually had, not every victim would have your outcome.
