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16 Nov 2014, 4:20 pm
Butterfiend
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16 Nov 2014, 5:10 pm
I'm not sure I agree with this. At least where I grew up, the bullies were often the popular kids who had their looks, but not much else going on upstairs. The "nerds"/Aspies have mostly gone on to do things. Some great things, some interesting things, and some just things... but more than the bullies who just ended up marrying other idiots from our high school and never leaving our home town. I got bullied badly back then. It was before physical bullying was a "no tolerance" thing. When I went to my reunion, everyone wanted to talk to me because all of a sudden, I was way more interesting than anyone they knew. I kind of enjoyed it. I even got invited to weddings of people who never would have given me the time of day back then. I don't resent anyone who likes me now... people grow up, and I get to feel like I won.
Edit: I forgot to answer your question, Butterfiend. You're super cute. Your bullies are probably jealous.
Do you mean that? I don't think I've ever been called cute before.
16 Nov 2014, 5:18 pm
I'm not sure I agree with this. At least where I grew up, the bullies were often the popular kids who had their looks, but not much else going on upstairs. The "nerds"/Aspies have mostly gone on to do things. Some great things, some interesting things, and some just things... but more than the bullies who just ended up marrying other idiots from our high school and never leaving our home town. I got bullied badly back then. It was before physical bullying was a "no tolerance" thing. When I went to my reunion, everyone wanted to talk to me because all of a sudden, I was way more interesting than anyone they knew. I kind of enjoyed it. I even got invited to weddings of people who never would have given me the time of day back then. I don't resent anyone who likes me now... people grow up, and I get to feel like I won.
Edit: I forgot to answer your question, Butterfiend. You're super cute. Your bullies are probably jealous.
It depends on the success (or significant improvement in looks) you eventually had, not every victim would have your outcome.
hasn't been my outcome for sure. I am a failure. I don't plan on attending my high school reunion.
16 Nov 2014, 6:27 pm
Get rid of the stubble/facial hair, stubble works for burly men as it gives them a gritty/rugged appearance, but if you have no muscles it's best to go with a clean-cut professional appearance. When you take your photos be careful of doing so with a t-shirt, a collar is a must, you want to go with a proffesional appearance if you don't have the muscle mass to pull off the rugged look.
But you look fine, you can definitely punch yourself up a point a two into the very attractive category... and is that a creeptastic pedo-stache I see? EVERYONE on the autistic spectm NEEDS to avoid the pedo-stache, we're already 'off' enough to float around in the creepy category, we don't need to give people validations. 
16 Nov 2014, 7:46 pm
Butterfiend
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16 Nov 2014, 10:16 pm
But you look fine, you can definitely punch yourself up a point a two into the very attractive category... and is that a creeptastic pedo-stache I see? EVERYONE on the autistic spectm NEEDS to avoid the pedo-stache, we're already 'off' enough to float around in the creepy category, we don't need to give people validations.
It's only a "Pedo Stache" because I shaved a couple days before. I can grow a full fledged beard in a month or two.
Butterfiend
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16 Nov 2014, 10:18 pm
It depends on the success (or significant improvement in looks) you eventually had, not every victim would have your outcome.
Of course. I was only disagreeing with "almost never the case" in regards to success. There are so many successful Aspies. Not all, obviously... but there are a lot. I wouldn't say "almost never" because we have so much potential.
Re: attractiveness, it took me years of therapy and self reflection to realize that although I'm extremely awkward (always have been and always will be,) that I was actually quite adorable in high school. I just had very low self esteem, which is very common for those on the spectrum. I think that's the issue with Mr. OP here. And yes, to answer your question, I am being serious. You are very cute, for real! Try faking confidence and you'll score dates. It's crazy how much confidence matters. If you chatted me up at a book store and then asked me to accompany you for some tea, I would say yes.
Thanks. It feels good to hear you say that.
You said to "Try faking confidence". How would you recommend I do that?
24 Nov 2014, 2:20 pm
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Jamesy
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24 Nov 2014, 4:02 pm
24 Nov 2014, 6:00 pm
You're not ugly you're cute, don't listen to haters. 
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24 Nov 2014, 6:13 pm
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Butterfiend
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24 Nov 2014, 9:54 pm
Is this better?
25 Nov 2014, 3:43 am
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