How Should I "Come Out" to My Date?

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If she's studying it, and your being yourself around her and not hiding who you are, Its likely she already knows and is waiting for you to be comfortable enough to tell her. Regardless, if you want your relationship to work you need to tell her so she can understand your different thinking patterns, it will save so much confusion in the long run.

The answer on how to tell her, whenever you feel the time is right, or write her a note, do it in text, maybe show her rather than tell her, I wished my ex had just taken the time to explain to me, things like, why he was giving me a stuffed animal, instead of a hug, It would of make life so much easier for both of us.

Honesty is the best policy I believe. If it starts to get more serious you should tell her, if she can't accept it then it wasn't meant to be. I believe there will come a time you may need her support in the future related to your autism or there may be things you do that she will not be able to understand unless you tell her.

If she really loves you then you two can make it work.

I don't know. This is odd. I can spot an autistic person from a mile away. Can't everyone?

It would really concern me if your gf hasn't already figured it out because she won't be very effective educator of special needs if she isn't able to identify the special needs themselves. But if she HAS already figured out about you, it may be that she is waiting for you to bring it up when you feel comfortable. If you don't feel comfortable mentioning it then don't. Everyone is so different. I don't think I would want to be with someone if I had to hide who I was the whole time, but then I am very comfortable by myself. An extroverted aspie wouldn't feel that way, I guess. Or someone who just really can't cope being alone, or something like that.

Personally, I believe there is no right way to do this; there is only the way you end up doing it or not doing it.

If it is sooner or later, you will likely need to tell sometime before living together.

If she reacts badly and leaves sooner, at least you did not waste your time.

But I would consult friends or family on HOW to do this. Because, done well, it could have good results for everyone.