Eligible Odd-Bods! - The Premier Aspergian Singles List

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Just as an update:


Name: Matt

Age: 27

Location: Northeast Ohio


Right now I'm wrapped up in a lot of life change, just got a job 3 months ago auditing payables of fortune 1000 companies, and have been out on the road most days of the week. I think my priorities are shifting a bit too, while I still like my music and still love to produce its a hobby and one that serves more as something therapeutic than something I'd really pin my identity on. I'm also hitting that point where the whole idea of having the wife, 2 or 3 kids, the suburban house with the SUV, its kinda catching up with me. Much more importantly, another thing that I feel is stealing from my life a little bit - I want to be there for someone. Having someone who can experience life in tandem with you is priceless and in addition someone where you can have their back in life, they've got your back, you're there for them when they can't be strong and they're there for you when you feel like your world is caving in - its one of those things where if you don't have it it's a heck of a thing to be missing in your life.

What I'm looking for is a woman who knows herself, is well established, and while I still would like someone who's more on the creative and artistic side herself I'm kinda looking for someone who's more conservative in general in just how she lives her life as well as being on the higher functioning end - PDD-NOS, mild Asperger's, just for the fact that if we're living together we'd be sharing the same groups of friends, would want to fit in both places, and we'd want to feel like we're on the same level in terms of as many things as are possible. I'd want her to be creative and artistic just for the fact that its a passion we could share, more in our free time. On another note I don't think I'd necessarily want her to be exactly like me, having the same exact passions in the same directions would be kind of boring but I'd like to have it in a place where we appreciate eachother's passions, appreciate eachother's differences, and where we have differences I'm looking for someone where as like myself and what I expect of me is the type of person who faces conflict constructively and tries to analytically problem-solve.

Another note, mobility, I have it - there are 23 different branch offices around the U.S. for the place I work but at the same time I'd want at least a year or two worth of experience before I decided that I wanted to switch branches (I work with some very cool and real people right now too). I think the age range I'm looking in, I wouldn't say its absolutely set in stone but its where I'm generally looking, is between 24 and 30.

As far as trying things out, if you are interested, I'd rather talk to you on here first and not really have the premise of a serious relationship be our acknowledgment of each other off the start but rather I'd like to get to know you. We need to know each other, talk, and see how we enjoy each other's personalities on here first. My thought on this place and any place where you meet people on line from all over the world, asking someone to move 3,000 miles or even talking about getting plane tickets to meet is a big committment in and of itself, while I'm not saying its something I'm afraid of I'd like to be pretty sure I'm not wasting my time or someone elses. The 'friend zone' thing IMO is more of an NT construct, if anything to me it seems like the only intelligent way to actually find someone who's right for you, how the heck are you supposed to know your intentions or if you'd want anything to do with someone after all just by figuring out if you think they're 'haut' in the first 30 seconds you see em? Its a load of bull and I think we can do way better than that. In my own opinion a good friendship is a very good starting point and it doesn't kill my attraction at all, if anything its very difficult to lay down that amount of value, investment, and trust in one person unless I know them on that level.

Seriously, anyone who wants to talk to me - I don't bite

im Will im a 15 year old white male from london, about 5"11 with brown hair and eyes, some people say im good looking and some say i dont so i let people decide it for themselves. i like fantasy games, maths, science, nature and chess. looking for someone who shares interests or just anyone with a nice personality and is reasonably or preferably very intellegent, looks arnt really an issue.

Hey, I'm Carly from Bowie, Md. I'm an Aspie. I'm 19 years old. I go to school at York College Of Pa. I would love to meet someone between 18 and 23. If you feel like talking PM or IM me- mychemq1

Good site I joined it but I'm having problems posting a pic. Is there any females on here, single from Northern Ireland, 20+? If so Pm me

Where would we be without Tim to give us a nice neat format to steal...

Name: Alan

Age: 43

Location: New Jersey (outside NYC)

Physical: 5'9, 190lbs, brown hair, blue eyes, clean-cut, I've been told I'm nice-looking.

Profession: Software Developer. Formerly a fairly senior official at the Department of Defense, now self-employed developing a system utilizing artificial intelligence to play online poker.

Education: B.S. CalTech; PhD (Computer Science) Stanford.

Interests: Extremely varied. Technology; Science (especially astronomy, physics and biology); History; Politics (especially foreign policy); Sports (watching many, playing tennis); Reading.

Sexual Orientation: Straight, Monogamous.

Status: Divorced (amicably, married 8 years to an NT), no children.

Religion: Agnostic. Raised Roman Catholic, but came to my senses as a young teenager.

TV Shows: 24, Buffy, Prison Break, Charmed, Stargate, CNN, the Travel Channel

Music: I like almost anything at least in moderation, particularly 80's rock, classical, new age and jazz.

Movies: Airplane, Hot Shots, Top Gun, Heat, Ocean's 11, True Lies, any of the Star Wars and Star Trek movies, Jurassic Park (mainly escapist entertainment, life's too hard as it is to want anything too realistic)

Books: I read voraciously and in waves, both fiction and non-fiction. In fiction, mainly action, military and spy thrillers (i.e. Clancy, Ludlum, etc.) In non-fiction, current political and foreign policy works (recently, In The Center of the Storm by George Tenet and Funding Terror by Rachel Aronfeld), and science (Warped Passages by Lisa Randall). Plus work-related books such as Advanced C# Development with Microsoft Visual Studio, and Internet Texas Hold'em by Matthew Hilger (no, it really IS work-related!)

Currently Reading: Map of Bones by James Rollins

Me in a nutshell: Very caring and loyal with my close circle of friends. Virtually no one can tell I have AS, I compensate for it extremely well so you can take me out in public. Very intellectual but with a dry, somewhat wacky sense of humor. Currently having a bit of a mid-life crisis, which is the reason for the job shift. Eventually, of course, I'll take my proper place as the Supreme Leader of the Known Universe, but at the moment I need a break...

Must-haves in a prospective mate: Someone who understands that while I can compensate for all of the typically socially problematic AS traits I still FEEL them inside, and that there are times when I'd like not to have to put on an act or hide things. This would probably be an aspie, but not necessarily. Preferrably a very highly educated, intellectual woman with whom I can have long, deep meaningful discussions on topics that interest both of us (hopefully computers, science and politics are on the list as well as others). Someone who can enjoy going out to dinner and movies, museums and the beach at least at times, but who is also comfortable staying in. In brief, someone with whom I can drop my emotional force-field and who can do the same with me. The perfect woman, is that too much to ask for?

Note that I'd be happy with an online relationship even long-distance which could have the possibility of developing into more over time. Remember the old one about "How do two porcupines make love? Very carefully..."

what the hell, here goes....

28 y/o male from NE England, looking for lass age 20-30

for further info just pm me, as i'm not too keen on putting my life story on here.

removed by Sopho's request

Is it ok to post other people on here?

she asked me too she was too shy to post it herself

give it more time-it's not even been 24 hours...and I'm only trying to help

Hello, my real name is Isaiah (although I think Charlemagne is much better I am 18 years old, mature, intelligent African-American male from the city with all the corrupt cops and politicians (a.k.a. Chicago) although I will be leaving for college in Hawaii in August.

Well, here are some things about myself. I'm a jack of all trades & master of none. As someone might be able to catch by my name I am somewhat into history and historical events as well as things like politics & philosophy but I also like things like mysteries and crime novels and cop shows like Law & Order and America's Most Wanted. Also I'm a little into fantasy role-playing and science fiction and horror novels & movies. Also I'm good with computers & an aspiring writer.

I am looking for a nice, good looking woman about 16-23 who is mature and good looking and can appreciate a good looking guy with a good personality.

Huh. Well, why not...

Pierre, 17 years of age, male, resident in Småland, Sweden. Half spanish.
Last time I checked 1.76 m tall, 66 kg heavy.
Eyes: Dark brown.
Hair: Black/brown. It has gotten brighter recently, possibly due to overexposure to sunlight. Long haired.
Facial hair.

I'm more or less a constant underperformer, and not a career-person, but give me a mindless enough task and I could bring in a very regular money-flow.

I'm not very healthy or strong, but I don't like taking sick-days, and will "fight on" if possible.

I am very much not a Casanova, so no worries there.

I am a gamer, and have interests in many associated areas.

I am not religious. I try to stay sceptic whenever possible.

I don't get so-called flings. I would rather have something steady.

A partner would have to be female. Preferably not prone to moral outcries.

I don't really know what else there is to write.
PM for questions.

Hi,
Im 23, male and from Scotland.
Looking for an e-pal or pen pal whos interested in talking.


Im not sure if I have aspergers or not, but am really open minded. Im not the least bit shallow and base my opinions of people solely on your character. Im also really honest and caring, but maybe sometimes too honest! Im only 4'10" and so classed as a little person so anybody shallow need not reply. Im not religious.
Im interested in the same subject I am studying at college which is psychology, sociology and philosophy. I like reading books about those subjects too but my main interest is music, I like almost all types of music apart from hip-hop and jazz.

Consider:

Talking to everyone. Yup, I'm like old enough to be most of the younger people's mother. Yikes. But I'm single too (divorced).

When I was younger, in my late teens, I couldn't pretend to like someone I didn't. But I did always seem to know who liked whom. Because I asked. And I had many marriages under my belt. Not my own, of course. I fixed up other people. I knew that this person liked that person. I processed it logically and thought they would make a good match.

Never mind that they got divorced later. I think all the couples got divorced later.

The point is, that they WERE happy for awhile.

If those people had specified certain types, they might not have found their mates, via me. I think I dated most of the guys before setting them up with someone else. They weren't MY type, but I knew someone.

It increases the odds if folks looking for a mate consider being friends with MANY people. Or just one busybody like me. And it's often CHANCE. My brother met his mate via pen pals, when he was taking a foreign language course and that other person had signed up to be a pen pal.

Already knew that the other person was receptive to simply talking. Because they signed up to talk.

If you were to start off with age, height, weight, eye color requirements, I would simply ignore the posts. If you started off with "looking to talk to people" I would probably respond.

I'll skip over singles ads that don't pertain to me. But I will look around if I notice someone IS single and someone else is single and they have similar interests. Contrary to popular NT thought patterns, I don't consider a girl/boyfriend to be absolute. If they were serious, they would have made the jump to marriage. Or to making the commitment so that they NEVER said they were "single".

Dating is a "trial period" and if it doesn't work, either or both people can leave, easily. What I look for is marriage potential. Long term relationship material between two people. Serious stuff. Not casual. And if the people I introduced got married, I felt it was a success. Are ya lookin' for any person, or a compatible person? They aren't the same.

And in responding here and over there, and somewhere else, I might connect the dots and set you up with someone else. So might dozens of other people who get to know YOU (whomever is reading this) and get to know other people.

Yes, post here that you are single.

But spend the majority of your time following your interests and talking to all kinds of people. You just never know who might know someone else they think is a good match.

Be yourself. Have fun participating in the forums here. Put that you are single in your profile, the quote area or something. Or in your signature.