Did girls always want to date you?

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Not at first, but I quickly became intimidatingly desirable.
Once I started wearing big boy clothes (basically anything that isn't a tee shirt and sweatpants or dudebro attire, and pay attention to the fit) and styling my hair the big boy way (Not spiked, guys. Go with a solid classic, same as clothes.), I stood out from the other guys. Standing out made girls notice my decent face and body, as well as my attitude. They perceived me to be aloof and cool, but I'm actually just a misanthrope who prefers solitude and hates physical contact.
They thought I was a bad boy or something, and often couldn't keep their hands(or other body parts) to themselves.

You are totally and utterly incorrect.

The thread is inspired from this thread of Reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/317zuv/they_all_seem_to_want_relationships_instead_of_sex/

Good to know.

High school and years up ahead to meet girls are very shallow. Being a setup for other another guy to say screw you man, she don't want you. Is more disturbing. The rules of interaction, includes being straight forward. Not pretending. Be more engaged. Not having the wrong girls to say your cute because they can. Insecurity plays a big play. Examine emotions and physical attraction. Including touching. You have to make sure they are really into you. If she comes up and kisses you or holds hand. She is just testing and seeing how you are and then goes for other men. But still its hard to tell how women are in terms to making things possible. Other wise your not satisfying their agenda. Its like the book of getting the ball game right. Play until you see boredom or no attraction anymore.

From my freshman to the end of Sophomore year, girls I felt more put up with me than anything. Around Junior year, girls seemed to flock out of the sky and would talk to me. It wasn't until my senior year though that I came to the conclusion that I was the stereotypical "gay best friend". (Me being straight and loving theater.) I don't know. High school had always acted as a testing ground.
Girls were weird..

I honestly wouldn't know if a girl liked me(in a romantic sense) to begin with. I don't think there is a problem being direct with your responses to questions. If anyone asks you questions they are just interested in getting to know you. I think maybe if you are interested in them(even as a friend) you could also ask them about themselves, with no other motive besides wanting to interact with another human being.

i think so.. girls were generally attracted to me, but i wasnt interested and was too anxious to respond.. its my biggest regret as i no longer have opportunities like that. i am now rotting away in loneliness and feel my chance at experiencing love or intimacy etc. is rapidly dwindling.. i don't wanna get into details though and i'm going i've digressed.

never

They seem rather to ignore me.

Dating is much easier in my mid 20's than it was in my teens. Teenage girls mostly care about popularity, what parties you get invited to and so on.

No, not at all, even though I had crush after crush on many girls.

Wow, this is really interesting, sounds like me. I was very quiet and aloof in high school, I didn't feel comfortable around the other kids at all, but I was nice to everyone and built up a very good reputation. What I have found is that reputation sticks and that all the momentary awkwardness is forgotten and forgiven. Especially if you do well for yourself out in the real world, a lot of people are gonna crawl out of the woodwork and act like they have a place in your new life, and at worst, it would be something like that - someone who decides that you're now really attractive. Too bad I live across the country now and if anyone from high school really did want me to stick around and be a long-term friend or more, they certainly missed their chance!

I'm doing better nowadays, sex and what people my age consider to be "love" is just not that important to me at all. My first relationship was an absolute disaster, it wasn't what I wanted at all so I ended it abruptly, but at least I learned a lot from it. The most important thing that I learned was that you can't just go for someone because they're good looking and they like you and want to be around you - that's desperation - you have to get to the bottom of them and make sure you are compatible. So now the question is more what I want. I don't mind being alone at all, so I would rather wait for someone who I think is really special and I am very compatible with, than just go for another "learning experience".

They are few and far between but they are out there, it's something to dream about...