04 Jun 2015, 8:45 am
On the other hand, if you hve any other flaws like a lack of a sense of humour, don't worry. And don't waste time bothering to try to correct. Once you have all the traits that women actually want, they'll all start thinking you're the funniest thing ever. 
04 Jun 2015, 10:14 am
There is no such thing as a flaw-free person. Everyone in the world has "flaws". Just because some people seem to have less flaws than others, it doesn't mean that they actually do. Most likely they can hide their flaws better than other people do. Being "flaw-free" is a flaw in itself - you have no room for growth or learning. You have your flaws, but you have your good qualities too. There is no such thing as someone who has no flaws, and there is no such thing as someone who has no good parts about them. It's v. important that you realise your good qualities and believe in yourself, because if you don't believe in yourself, nor will anyone else.
It's very clear that you are insecure about yourself, which is not good. You have to be able to accept that you are not perfect, and you must acknowledge that while you have flaws you have good qualities too, and love yourself as a person. One way to possibly feel better about yourself is "fixing" some of your flaws, the ones that are easy to "fix" (e.g. if you're overweight, you can go on a diet or something and then after you've lost the weight you want to you may feel a bit better about yourself). Some flaws cannot be easily "fixed", and those flaws you will have to accept. It's not about liking everything about yourself, we all have things we don't like about ourselves, it's about loving the person that you are. Because you are beautiful and special in your own way, you are a human being like all of us, and both your good bits and flaws make you you 
As far as girlfriends are concerned, it's important to remember that all females are different. There are some females who just want a stinking rich sugar daddy or a 7ft tall hottie with wall-to-wall muscles and have a list of requirements that are unrealistic, shallow and very lacking in leniency, and 99.9% of the time those females don't get what they want. One day you will find someone who "loves you warts and all", meaning she loves your for who you are, not just the gorgeous bits. If she doesn't, she is not the one for you. But one day you will find the one, trust me.
Best of luck to you
04 Jun 2015, 10:30 am
Someone might look like they are perfect, but have either mental health issues or a ton of baggage. I recall reading somewhere that many girls don't want the baggage associated with marrying into royalty, for instance.
NTs will often give you clues as to what you need to fix--I remember some gals at a dentist's office offering to help me get new shirts. 
Realistically, you want to present the best "package" you can. Obsessing about height isn't going to help. Getting a better job or even becoming an expert in one your special interests is likely to be a better use of your time. Or, perhaps you can widen your special interest enough to attract conversations with the average person.
Nearly everyone in this forum who complains about being too short is actually shorter than I am--I'm 5' 2".
04 Jun 2015, 3:39 pm
04 Jun 2015, 3:48 pm
It's very clear that you are insecure about yourself, which is not good. You have to be able to accept that you are not perfect, and you must acknowledge that while you have flaws you have good qualities too, and love yourself as a person. One way to possibly feel better about yourself is "fixing" some of your flaws, the ones that are easy to "fix" (e.g. if you're overweight, you can go on a diet or something and then after you've lost the weight you want to you may feel a bit better about yourself). Some flaws cannot be easily "fixed", and those flaws you will have to accept. It's not about liking everything about yourself, we all have things we don't like about ourselves, it's about loving the person that you are. Because you are beautiful and special in your own way, you are a human being like all of us, and both your good bits and flaws make you you
As far as girlfriends are concerned, it's important to remember that all females are different. There are some females who just want a stinking rich sugar daddy or a 7ft tall hottie with wall-to-wall muscles and have a list of requirements that are unrealistic, shallow and very lacking in leniency, and 99.9% of the time those females don't get what they want. One day you will find someone who "loves you warts and all", meaning she loves your for who you are, not just the gorgeous bits. If she doesn't, she is not the one for you. But one day you will find the one, trust me.
Best of luck to you
I have NO good qualities. I promise.
Believe in yourself? There is nothing good with me, and I cant fix my flaws, so why should I belive in myself? Nobody does it....all the time I go out people are looking at me and laughing. And one time a girl took a photo at me. Many has told me how worthless I am. Even my own family and former friends. There is a reason that i am a lonly-wolf with no friends and unkissed.
You fail to understand that girls has many demands on guys, even if some of my flaws did go away (wont happen), girls would still avoid me. As an guy, you must be perfect or just have 1 or 2 flaws, if not, then there is no hope. And yes, all females are diffrent, but one thing they have in common and that is that they dont want an ugly, skinny, short, virigin, boring guy with red lips. Why should they choose a guy like me when they can choose another and they know they can? Its simple logic.
Lol, you are one of those who belive that love is like in books and movies? What world do you live in? How can you have missed that there is people who have died as virgins? I have talked to several 40-50 years old that are virgins aswell....so dont come with they "there is someone for everyone and one day you will find someone" its not true, becuse many never meet anyone. You are just making me more depressed with saying this stuff.
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04 Jun 2015, 3:53 pm
You have your mind made up so What was the point of this post 
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04 Jun 2015, 9:27 pm
I have 100s of flaws, but some of them are: very red lips, short, skinny, small penis, extremly ugly, virigin, stupid, strange voice, big eye-brows, social phobia, depressed. And many more. This is too much.
Flaws are merely a matter of perspective & perception. One might define something as a flaw, whereas someone else might be attracted to that very same thing - and not just for it's rarity or uniqueness, but they may actually have a "thing" for that particular trait.
Maybe some girl out there really likes red lips. With Billions of people on the planet, there's bound to be someone.
Height - I guarantee there are some girls out there that are attracted to short guys. Besides, I'm sure we've all seen very short people with significant others. Heck, even midgets/little people have paired up with regular height people.
Skinny - again, some people like skinny people.
Small penis - ok, sure, it's fairly rare.. but again, there ARE people out there that are attracted to small penises. Further, there are people out there that don't care about penis size at all because they're more interested in what your hands and mouth can do than your penis. Fact.
Extremely ugly - that's subjective.
Virgin - so what?
Stupid - somehow I doubt this considering you seem to be able to write a post here just fine. Maybe you're not a genius, but most people aren't.
Strange voice - again, subjective. Also, you may be able to work on improving it.
big eyebrows - maybe you'd benefit from going to an aesthetician for a consultation on shaping them into something you like the look of better?
social phobia/depressed - these things can be worked on and overcome via various methods.
many more/too much.. well, you seem to have a pretty good list of things that bother you the most. Work on them. Change and improve what you can, change your mind about the others. Live a happier life.
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