can aspies get girlfriends

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I think the disqualifier is really:

If you can put the girl in focus and invest emotion in her: then yes definately.

If you can't: then it is highly unlikely

If you can't care about a woman more than what she can provide you and your self image, you shouldn't even have a girlfriend. She's bound to be unhappy with you. Also, you shouldn't pity yourself if you're unable to strongly care about another person and can't get a date. If that's the case you should realise that you don't even have a legitimate problem to begin with.

I never look for women because I'm too darn lazy and egocentrical to learn empathy. Neither do I feel warm and tingly if one offers me a compliment. Guess that makes me a robot.

It just irks me how people who never comforts/appreciates/encourages/loves/affirms another wail when noone is willing to give it up to them.

I want to be a girlfriend. But by the time I realize someone is interested in me they move on to another person ... So there's never even a chance.

I just can't find anyone I do like or who would ever like me

but you ave people who like you-look at the positive
I've had one girl tell me she liked me (hen she moved) and I liked her too

Sopho,

You seem so negative about the prospect of finding a partner. I assume this is more down to the availability of women as opposed to men. Are there not bars and clubs where you live that cater for your preferences? Would it not be worth trying to strike up even the most rudimentary friendship with the person you're interested with at uni, maybe with a view introducing them to your 'scene' subtly?

You don't need to give the game away until your ready and comfortable.

My problem is not so much one of finding a partner; but more of keeping one: the "flame" seems to be burn out when I'm under alot of stress, particularly work. First relationship lasted 2 years or so; second 1 year, and now I'm counting them in the weeks ... I don't understand it myself. Would appreciate if somebody could explain it to me ...

Roger

there is-you just haven't met her yet
You'll find someone wonderful Sophie-who will love you and cherish you
you just can't give up

With respect, it doesn't sound like your not bothered: in fact, your postings suggest you're very bothered with the whole situation. Club/bars etc. aren't the best for everybody, and I'm not sure as to your social scene, but I've found that getting involved with team sports can be quite good -- the social scene is kind of created for you. I play waterpolo myself even though I'm not good at it: tends to mix non-drinking socialising with drinking socialising quite well.

If sports aren't good for you .. are none of the University SU societies any good? Surely there's plenty of female oriented clubs - netball, crafts etc?