Sweetleaf wrote:
indianadowjones wrote:
Why can't find a date? Are the following attributes desirable?
- I'm college educated
- I drive a paid off car, and a paid off truck
- I own my house (no mortgage)
- No debt, just the usual bills, and pay off my credit cards monthly
- I fully fund my Roth IRA every year
- I have a decent stock portfolio
- I don't smoke, and drink infrequently
- Never married, no kids
- No criminal issues, only a few tickets here and there (no moving violations though)
What am I doing wrong? I've asked for dates but get rejected. I'm not even worth a free meal?
Well simply being financially stable, and not smoking or drinking often alone probably won't attract anyone. You could own a car and be financially stable and still be boring...what kind of hobbies do you have, what activities do you do/like, what kind of things would you want to do with a significant other?
Emotional and intellectual connection is a good starting point, I think.
Stability is an excellent bonus and a lack of it can definitely reduce someone's odds, but dating is largely about compatibility and attraction. Like in friendship, people want people who fit into their lives, complement their personality (or personality flaws), help them with their struggles, and stimulate them. People who can do that often have their appearances or finances overlooked.
For those of us who don't mesh with the normal modes of thinking and feeling, that can be much harder. Clingy types I think tend to look for a "rock" to cling to. I wouldn't be surprised if someone well-off and aloof gave off that impression to them.