What the hell is flirting?!

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02 Jul 2015, 7:35 pm

No seriously, I have no idea what it is or how to use it...

What the hell is flirting?!

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02 Jul 2015, 7:40 pm

Flirting (for guys) involves telling a girl how good-looking she is. Winking at her. Kissing her hand. Smiling at her. Making sure you talk to her. Tell her you miss her when she's gone. Stuff like that.

But make sure she likes it when you do that stuff.

More subtle flirting involves making sure the girl knows that you care about what she says. Identifying with her. Making sure what you're saying has meaning for her.

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02 Jul 2015, 7:46 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

hand kissing isn't the norm anymore sadly. I think its romantic and would want to do it but most girls wouldn't like it.

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02 Jul 2015, 8:08 pm

Sure they do, Sly. Especially those who dress femininely.

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02 Jul 2015, 9:13 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Sure they do, Sly. Especially those who dress femininely.

^ That's funny!! !!

I've had someone kiss my hand before and it was memorable. I liked it. Also, it's how you look at the person, kind of like the person is a slice of carrot cake with cream cheese frosting, but without salivating/overdoing it. A subtle smile and conversation doesn't hurt either.

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02 Jul 2015, 11:34 pm

Loveurself wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Sure they do, Sly. Especially those who dress femininely.

^ That's funny!! ! !

I've had someone kiss my hand before and it was memorable. I liked it. Also, it's how you look at the person, kind of like the person is a slice of carrot cake with cream cheese frosting, but without salivating/overdoing it. A subtle smile and conversation doesn't hurt either.

how did he do it? I'm unsure as how to actually get to being able to do it.

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02 Jul 2015, 11:51 pm

https://www.psychologytoday.com/article ... ascination

I learned how to flirt primarily by reading 'The Game' by Neil Strauss.

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03 Jul 2015, 1:46 am

Hand-kissing of the elders (of both genders) is the norm in Turkish and in some Lebanese rural areas for priests (yuck).

Here an interesting read about this dying habit (good thing): http://www.todayszaman.com/op-ed_why-i- ... 24554.html

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03 Jul 2015, 2:35 am

Word magic.

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03 Jul 2015, 4:20 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Yuck! I would absolutely not do any of the above.

Flirting for me is nonverbal, and includes having regular eye contact with her without being in a discussion with her. I would absolutely not smile at her, but might give her a smirk or two. To be able to share a mutual stare with her for several seconds without it feeling uncomfortable would be the ultimate goal.

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03 Jul 2015, 6:13 am

For a girl, it is the same nonverbal eye contact pattern, but in addition to that it can be also be stims (a subtle wink with her hand only), and placing herself in front of the guy.

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03 Jul 2015, 6:20 am

Flirting can be individualistic, as well as universalistic in nature, as rdo points out.

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03 Jul 2015, 11:30 am

sly279 wrote:

Loveurself wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Sure they do, Sly. Especially those who dress femininely.

^ That's funny!! ! !

I've had someone kiss my hand before and it was memorable. I liked it. Also, it's how you look at the person, kind of like the person is a slice of carrot cake with cream cheese frosting, but without salivating/overdoing it. A subtle smile and conversation doesn't hurt either.

how did he do it? I'm unsure as how to actually get to being able to do it.

We were already dating and one day after greeting me, he smiled, grabbed my hand, and kissed it. I was elated. I was also confused at first because people really don't do that anymore. The confusion subsided when I realized, that it was his way of conveying his feelings for me. When I think about it, I still smile.

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03 Jul 2015, 1:11 pm

Loveurself wrote:

sly279 wrote:

Loveurself wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Sure they do, Sly. Especially those who dress femininely.

^ That's funny!! ! !

I've had someone kiss my hand before and it was memorable. I liked it. Also, it's how you look at the person, kind of like the person is a slice of carrot cake with cream cheese frosting, but without salivating/overdoing it. A subtle smile and conversation doesn't hurt either.

how did he do it? I'm unsure as how to actually get to being able to do it.

so its post relationship not pre relationship flirting. see I wanted to do it as a pre relationship way of showing interests.

I also bring pink roses to first dates. pink is for attraction/admiration. ie liking. never bring yellow as that's for friendship and red either as its for deep passionate love. so single pink rose. I had a shop that would make it look all nice. they put a tiny thing of water in bottom of stem, surround by some kind of other lessor flower, then wrap it all in pretty paper.

though I'm not sure women appreciate this.

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03 Jul 2015, 1:51 pm

Being immature, anything but telling the person how you feel

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03 Jul 2015, 1:52 pm

sly279 wrote:

so its post relationship not pre relationship flirting. see I wanted to do it as a pre relationship way of showing interests.

Yeah, I don't see the point of flirting if you already are dating or in a relationship. The point is to identify those that are interested, not as a form of compliments / games that people already in relationships have.

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I also bring pink roses to first dates. pink is for attraction/admiration. ie liking. never bring yellow as that's for friendship and red either as its for deep passionate love. so single pink rose. I had a shop that would make it look all nice. they put a tiny thing of water in bottom of stem, surround by some kind of other lessor flower, then wrap it all in pretty paper.

though I'm not sure women appreciate this.

I think they should.

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