Girlfriend is averse to touch

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We're both aspies. I'm very fond of touching but its difficult to convince her to hold my hand for any significant period of time. She doesn't mind spending 10+ hours per date and hugging me each time but anything else can make her uncomfortable. I find it difficult to keep my hands to myself all the time. What could I possibly do to meet in the middle?

Make sure you avoid light touch, and always use firm touch. If you hug her, give her a firm hug, If you hold her hand, hold it firmly, and not lightly, and keep it like that.

You could ask her if there's anyway for you to touch her so that she doesn't feel uncomfortable, if it's in public, if she feels that you're "too close" or if it's just that she's not used to it, I am also a very touchy person and to me it seems like the best way is to see if she wants to be distant or if she just feels like she needs to be.

Or try to establish a closer emotional tie because she might feel like you're physically closer than you are emotionally, and remember that just because you feel close to her doesn't mean she feel as close to you.

Good luck with it anyway, hope it works out for you.

I don't mean to be a dark cloud over a field of sunshine, but it doesn't seem like she even likes you, if she's acting this way. (Side questions: Have you had a mutual conversation to establish that she's your girlfriend? Have you kissed her?) For any kind of romantic relationship to exist, there absolutely has to be physical affection, period. You don't have to have your hands all over each other's sex organs, but some level of body proximity is a must. This can include chest-to-chest hugs, hand-holding, close dancing, kissing, etc. Otherwise you're just banal friends. (This doesn't apply to the dance community, where physical touch drives the whole experience, but is governed by very strict boundaries.)

My personal experience was like this. I had a "girlfriend" (if you could call her that) my first year of college. We spent a lot of time together, went places, and had great conversations. But she didn't want to hold hands. She didn't want to dance close. And her hugging skills stunk! I later found out that she didn't like me. I should have known right off the bat; all the signs were staring me in the face the whole time.

sensual touching makes difficult agreements. i dealt with so many women in my life, different women make me lose the idea. they all dont get the ways. so why bother working with them. its only worth it when you dont get stressed.