Will She Buy YOU Dinner?

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It's not self centered or superficial to expect the person who asked you out to pay for the date. It's traditional that the guy asks the girl out and pays for the date, but it's gotten more common for the girls to do the asking and the paying. It's nothing to do with wanting his money, it's really more about how tradition and the usual way things are done slowly changing.

Women do provide for themselves for the most part. Most women do work. In relationships even if the guy pays for the dates most of the time, the girls do give gifts or do things for their boyfriends like buy them things if they have the money for that. Also, after being in a relationship for a few months it's usually not a big deal who pays for things any longer. If they both want to go to something and the guy usually pays but he doesn't have the money for it, she chips in or pays for it. After a while it's more along the lines of "What do we have enough money to do this weekend" rather than "What does he have the money to take me to this weekend?"

In a marriage, most women work as well and people pool their money. Also, many times she makes as much or more than he does, so she ends up shouldering most of the financial burden. Traditional roles in marriage when it comes to earning aren't seen all that often now. I'm one of the very few ladies I know who is one of the old school classic housewives and does everything at home and has a husband who goes to work. However, I still pay the bills. He wants no part of that so he gives me the money when he comes home on Friday and keeps about a hundred for himself for the week for lunches or whatever and I take the rest and pay bills and buy for the house. He goes out to work 8 hours a day and when he gets home he doesn't have to do anything. When I'm sick he helps out, and he does lift and move heavy objects anytime that needs to be done, but he comes home and sits back and does whatever he wants, so it's not at all unfair. He's happy with it like this and I'm happy with it like this and our kids had great childhoods and are happy with it like this and have said many times that they are very glad they had a mom who was at home by choice and actually did things for them when they were growing up.

Also, I know several girls who are with guys who either don't have a job or can't keep a job or have really sh***y jobs. My best friend is with a douchebag who just won't work. He won't keep a job at all. She supports him, although she's getting sick of it and is about ready to leave him. He treats her like crap anyway and all he wants to do is sit around and get high while she goes to work and pays the bills. She's staying with the methadone clinic and he's not so thats another reason. Also it's another reason he won't keep a job - other than him just being a big whiney baby who gets so upset he throws a fit anytime his boss says anything to him he doesn't like, such as "You can't come to work two hours late and expect to work that day, go home and come back tomorrow" or "You can't disappear for lunch and come back three hours later, high. Go home and come back tomorrow". She's also a very beautiful girl and popular too, she just picks real losers for some reason. He's not even good looking. She's got issues.

So, women aren't just out there looking for money. While there are gold diggers, most women are not at all gold diggers. There are plenty of shallow ones too, but most aren't. Also, I don't think it's shallow to want to be with a man who has a job and has a job that supports him even if it wouldn't support two people. I wouldn't think it was shallow if a man wanted that in a woman either, but man guys are fine with women being housewives, although most of us don't want to do that - I guess I'm not mainstream that way.

Bottom line, most women won't turn you down just because you aren't loaded nor will they dump you if you can't take them out to nice places every week. And, the person who does the asking also does the paying.