Trying to deal with no contact with ex
rdos wrote:
NyxBean wrote:
Update: Sorry folks, as frustrating as it is, behaviours aren't always saying what they seem to be.
For neurodiverse people, of course not.
That was pretty much what I meant. I figured it's a thing NDs will have to make note of each time (personally I don't categorise NDs as only autistics* and as well as that, there are those who are termed NT who have conditions which cause this to become an issue too).
Why did stimming come into this, btw? As well as that, I've heard that some stims aren't as noticeable, some don't do it often enough to be noticed even if a ND, and even some NTs stim although not to the same degree.
*Bipolar spectrum, schizo disorders, other such conditions
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so many people have trained hard not to stim in public.
Sorry, missed this first time round but want to ask: do you think an undiagnosed child would train themselves that way and also to avoid punishment, repressing the whole idea of stims and hurting themselves emotionally (maybe physically) over the years because they learned not to? I seem to remember stims and remember in particular getting complained at for my legs. I have C-PTSD black out on memory though and as the assessment gets nearer, I'm worried I won't "stim enough" for their liking. I do several ones a lot in those situations anyway, without helping it much; common one is to rub my knees or rock a bit.
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Let's simply agree to disagree.
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Relationships are difficult, breakups are worse!
Are you abselutely sure that your ex. is normal and not in any way abusiv. People with an abusive backgound often end up with an abusive partner. Have you read up on the red flags, gaslightning etc. ?
https://www.psychopathfree.com/content. ... -Red-Flags
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NyxBean wrote:
That was pretty much what I meant. I figured it's a thing NDs will have to make note of each time (personally I don't categorise NDs as only autistics* and as well as that, there are those who are termed NT who have conditions which cause this to become an issue too).
Neither do I. ND is much broader than diagnosed autism, and stims are part of NDs, not only of autism.
NyxBean wrote:
Why did stimming come into this, btw? As well as that, I've heard that some stims aren't as noticeable, some don't do it often enough to be noticed even if a ND, and even some NTs stim although not to the same degree.
Because you can read ND people's emotions that way, which is a valuable tool in relationships with NDs that don't verbalize their emotions. For instance, if they flap hands or jump up and down they are happy, and if they use "classic" stims they are most likely stressed or anxious.
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