WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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For me the toilet seat being down is important for multiple reasons, none of which involves me backing ass first onto the toilet - your post was well written and funny though.
1) Are you aware that when you flush the toilet the water is agitated and this swirling cesspool is casting germs by the trillions into the air you are breathing? You most likely have the door closed so you get to enjoy all those germs in a concentrated space. I hope you realize toilet water is continuously hugely germ infested even after flushing unless you are actively scrubbing all surfaces with bleach after each use. If you lifted both lids to pee you undoubtedly splashed something on the toilet edge, so close the lid on that mess and keep it trapped till it all settles. You should see me fly out of public toilets that don't have lids after flushing. Ew.
2) I am somewhat clumsy. I'm betting that is not an unusual trait in the Asperger/Aspie spectrum. If you left the seat open and I walk in carrying anything, i.e. my cell phone, towels, a brush, and I don't set it down just right, and it falls, guess where its going? So what might have been a tumble on the floor without much damage ends up being a tumble in water, dirty water. My daughter has done this more than once. She takes after me.
Aside - The toilet seat weighs maybe 10 ounces, use your big manly muscles and lower it to the closed position. As another poster mentioned - you are lowering one (female) or two lids (male). It shouldn't be a problem and everyone should do it. And people wonder why they get sick.

I totally agree with you on bidets, and wish they were commonly available.

^ And a bathroom just looks nicer/tidier when the seat and lid are down. I like to keep a tidy house and so I close the lid of the toilet same as I close cupboard doors etc.

No it's because I can't afford not to be. It's because I already have very limited resources for coping with life, and I don't have enough to spare to deal with unnecessary suffering or heartache.

Isn't that precisely what being able to afford it means?

Okay. I thought you were referring to the idea of when one can "afford to be judgemental" because they can easily find a partner, as opposed to those who can't afford to be picky because they must "take what they can get". Apologies.

Unfortunately this is what I had to learn or else you will enter bad relationships, make the same mistakes again, get raped, have your wallet stolen, etc.

But yet I had entered two bad relationships and each guy had their own red flags I had missed due to not being judgmental.

Dealbreakers:

* Smoker / Drug user / Alcoholic.
* Racist. Cant date idiots.
* Violent and/or Psychopat. Obvious.
* Has kids and wants me to pay for, or take care of them. Not my job. Cannot stand screaming kids.
* Seeks a guy "with money" or a "dangerous" man. Shows immaturity.
* Already has planned a life for herself and the guy she wants. Sorry, but i want a word in on that too.
* Want to drag me to highly intensive social situations, like concerts and parties. Wont happen.
* Want to move somewhere because "you'll be able to find a job in no time".
* Has dogs that are bread for fighting, says to me that she is an insecure person with low self esteem.

Someone who's influenced or persuaded by people who are mean and manipulative would definitely be one for me.

I'm going to skip the obvious deal breakers like being a psychopath, being married, having poor hygiene etc...

Deal Breakers:

- Having an obsession with reality TV or other celebrity gossip crap
- No interest in outdoor activities (mainly hiking)
- Allergic to or doesn't like cats
- Doesn't like having philosophical conversations or meaningful debates
- Being a bad tipper
- Related to the one above, being impolite to waiters/other customer service people you might interact with

That's all I can think of for now

Me too. Or just someone who's easily influenced or persuaded in general.

In a significant other relationship:
I will not tolerate irrationalism/emotionalism with the intent to psychologically dominate...I.E. Those who play mind games to yank my chain...
And I will not tolerate reality frackers...I.E. Liars...

I have dogs...
Lid must be down at all times for obvious reasons...

Someone who can't appreciate information like this...huge dealbreaker
https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=1&v=sRlYwyqDA3Y

Having or wanting kids is the biggest (as in most commonly encountered) deal breaker for me. I couldn't date someone who was unkind either - the most important attribute of any person, in my opinion, is how they treat others. That's true for romantic partners as well as friends.

Religion/Values/Ethics, kind of a no brainer. If we don't think similar than how are we supposed to ever get along. Sure some things can differ and I'd want them to be, brings something new to the dynamic, but the core has to be pretty in line.
Everything else falls under this umbrella honestly. I'm an agnostic/spiritual. I believe in personal freedom and equality of all people. I like outdoors stuff like hiking, but that's negotiable. Has a slight general concern for their physical health, ie, isn't obese or something with the strong possibility of getting diabetes. A good taste in music or respect for music mediums outside their own preferred style is also negotiable, though I'd prefer it since it's my main mode of expressing emotions

From an objective perspective, if you wanted a significant other relationship where both parties think with greater similarity, homosexuality/lesbianism makes more sense....
And of course asexuality/asexuality...

One of the annoying things about being heterosexual is being attracted to the opposite gender which inherently thinks differently...
If humanity was predominantly hermaphroditic, this "dilemma" would not be in existence...

Those who enjoy the mindset differences and consider it complementary could "yin and yang"...
Those who prefer homogeneity could be much more easily satisfied also...
More hermaphrodites please...