Crazyfool wrote:
^ I was only kidding BTW. I would seriously be pissed though, who wouldn't. And I've seen women act more psycho then that over way less then cheating on her with her best friend....yikes most women would probably murder both of them.
PERSPECTIVE. That's the word I was looking for. The only way to get PERSPECTIVE on relationships is by having them and having them fail (ideally when you're young-ish, so you can get the inevitable freakouts out of your system). To get dumped by the person you thought was the love of your life, be miserable and have the world continue to spin on its axis. Other people will TELL you that you'll be okay after the breakup but you (me) don't believe it without actual, first-hand evidence (still being alive after the breakup). You (me) eventually get to the point that you literally don't remember the ex's last name. And it takes way less long than you'd think (4-5 years).
The self-control to NOT make wild murderous threats, or any threats, and to tell yourself This Too Will Pass requires perspective. To put your faith in What Goes Around Comes Around Eventually (Though Not Usually With A Satisfying Three-Month Turnaround Time). And making wild threats is usually not a felony if you're a dumb, broken-hearted kid but definitely is if you're a legal adult. So my take is that early dating experience (like early work experience) is a GOOD thing -- so you can make the inevitable mistakes when stakes are pretty low.
(I actually had one of my then-BFFs sleep with my then-boyfriend in college. I was heartbroken and livid at HER way more than the guy. The guy didn't matter, one of a zillion over the many years it took to figure out that Hot Alone Is Fun for Maybe Three Months, who was replaced a few weeks later. The friendship I mourned for ages).