If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late?

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I've met PLENTY of older women who are hotties.

Yes, but when someone refuses all help and keeps and keeps being self-indulgent and saying that they are good and the rest of the world is bad, it kind of becomes annoying. I don't really blame her for getting upset.
But on one thing she is wrong, it isn't true that you need to leave your parents' house, have an interest/aim (beyond viodegames and comics...) in your life and be able to earn your living. Sure these things help a lot, but I don't think it's that, many people have GFs and they lack these things. I think it's more about being able to interact with people, get friends and stuff like that.

I am 24 and half. Never dated nor had sex. Being an aspie guy is just pure bad luck for myself because women sees me like a freak. I have no idea why I am saying this I am being freak. I thought I am attractive, because I am postgraduate student, internship, job opportunities, family, friends, $$, studio apartment, luxury car, been traveling and so on. But what lefts is no relationship nor sex experience. Maybe I am slightly bothered because of my age.

I know lots of people including my friends especially that younger than me already had both experiences. That bothered me, because it makes me feel like less of a man.

If somebody asks, just say you're "looking for the right girl."

You know what? It's possible you just might be "looking for the right girl," subconsciously.

I understand how you feel. I got my first girlfriend and lost my virginity at 20. Before that happened I felt ashamed about who I was. I do appreciate experiencing those things, but neither made me feel like a man all of a sudden. You seem to be successful, have some good relationships and an understanding of what you want to do with your life. Maybe those aren't "manly" traits, but they are desirable to have.

I feel more appreciated or being comfortable with especially in social situations. So for relationships and sex I see as more of a mutual thing, that makes me feel more accepted by its nature. Without it, especially my experience right now I don't feel any women accept who I am or appreciate for the environment.

Whatever you are presently doing in an attempt to get dates has clearly failed miserably. Have you considered a different approach?

Like, asking a trusted friend or two what they think you are doing wrong; accepting the criticism as constructive, and; making reasonable changes (if warranted) as a result.

My Fiancee is almost 40 and EVERYONE comments on how drop dead gorgeous she is. She even gets IDed all the time, usually with the security guard making a comment on how amazing she looks. One female even said "You have GOT to tell me your secret, you look under 25!" to her.

All I can suggest without knowing you personally is that almost all women aren't attracted to passive guys (like many fellow Aspies can be) just like most men are not attracted to tough, tomboy looking women. Fair? Maybe not but it's a fact of life. I'm not going to go into detail outside of the adult forum but every woman I was with fell for me once I started being dominant (NOT aggressive).

If you're into playing games, you'll do well with women into playing games.

I don't do games.

That's a total non-sequitor.

What do our posts have to do with "playing games"?

The thing about "being dominant not aggressive" towards women somehow resulted in women flocking to you. You took to playing a game, resulting in game-loving girls interest in you.

I get what you are saying but I would not call it a 'game' so much as being more forceful with my personality. After rejection after rejection, any sane person is going to tweak their approach and this has nothing to do with playing any games.

That's because you are a man, and by default you play games and you feel ENTITLED to sex from women - you are not entitled to sex and women don't owe you sex if you are repulsive, disgusting and a bag of feces hence probably why women run away from you!!

/kaytekate style

OHHhh you tweak stuff because you feel ENTITLED TO SEX - game-loving girls are probably totally dumb and have ZERO self-esteem to even come close to someone as unappealing-sounding with ENTITLEMENT issues as yourself.

/kaytekate style

You are probably attracted to upbeat, confident women who always seem to be cheerful and have a good sense of humor, aren't you? Then if you want women to be attracted to you then be that way yourself. It is not a game.

27 isn't too late to start a relationship and it's not too late to end one either. Tomorrow I'm going to dump gf. I don't think she's right for me and now I think it would be wrong for me to string her along.