Love too advanced for aspies? Getting a gf in university?

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IMO, you should keep your mind distracted from thinking of how you'll win over a girl.

You must try to win her without thinking about it? How?

I didn't say they are objects to be won, even though most men think of them that way. Their love is something to be won.
You are a very unfriendly, harsh and judgemental person, more so than me.

I have a question that somehwat relates to the OP's posts.

My question is, coming from a teenage male, does making friends become any easier after high school and once one enters university?

Even with substantially improved social skills, an improvement in physical appearance (e.g. you started working on your hygiene and looks better and started working out in your later years of high school so that by the time you go to university/college you are your best looking ever so far), will it still be hard?

As in, is there anything to look forward to and, if not, just what can an aspie do to be fully prepared to meet new people and make new friends by the time they first step onto a university campus?

It became much easier for me once I reached 18.

The problem for a lot of us is that the only time we ever meet other people on a level other than complete stranger is in school, college or university. Even then most of our experiences with these few people were mostly negative, bullying and isolation are not all too rare for people with autism. This is different for the majority of your colleagues, all their life they have steadily built up positive social experiences. They are constantly seeking social activities and marketing themselves in social circles to improve their value to others. They don't see talking or flirting with you as something special, they see it as a way to gain something as they do all the time. Whether that is making you do their homework or getting you to do the most work in their group exercise. NTs are masters of manipulation and self-gratification, if they are socializing with you while they have no genuine reason to chances are they are going to take advantage of you. They have no reason to be interested in a loner with little social skills that will only be a dead weight to them.

The only thing you can hope is that you meet another oddball like yourself, male or female, so that you won't have to spend every course alone. This may sound kind of harsh but this is the truth, it is better to know this now than to realize this once you have been taken advantage of for years and get betrayed by the people who would act like they were your friends.