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28 Sep 2015, 1:26 am

Go to Facebook, check your inbox, you see all those guys of your age range who are either friends, acquaintances, friends of friends who sent you "Hi/hello/Something" - to whom you probably replied very briefly or even never replied? (Not counting the total random strangers)

Those are your male admirers, guys who are interested to get to know you more :lol:.

Hurtloam, go check it now.



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28 Sep 2015, 3:50 am

Isn't it beneath them to show the slightest hint that they might be remotely interested in anything about their admirers?


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28 Sep 2015, 3:57 am

yeah... I think those boats have sailed, I don't bother contacting girls I have feelings for these, days, unless she initiates something or if their is something we need to do and schedule for. guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?



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28 Sep 2015, 4:54 am

SwissPagan wrote:
guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?

This is so untrue, don't generalize. It only applies to guys like us.



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28 Sep 2015, 5:14 am

I think most women know about their admirers, but either choose not to do anything about it or don't know what to do about it. I had a girl admirer and it was very obvious she's interested in me.

Peacesells wrote:
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guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?

This is so untrue, don't generalize. It only applies to guys like us.

Lol. I totally agree with you.



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28 Sep 2015, 5:15 am

Peacesells wrote:
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guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?

This is so untrue, don't generalize. It only applies to guys like us.


And there's probably just as many women sitting back, waiting for a guy to initiate things.


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28 Sep 2015, 5:26 am

Elfwink wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
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guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?

This is so untrue, don't generalize. It only applies to guys like us.

And there's probably just as many women sitting back, waiting for a guy to initiate things.

I was not talking about guys who are too shy to initiate.



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28 Sep 2015, 8:46 am

Peacesells wrote:
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guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?

This is so untrue, don't generalize. It only applies to guys like us.


When I send a short FB message to a man I've recently become acquainted with, it doesn't necessarily mean I'm interested in him romantically (though it could, I guess). More often than not, I'll initiate contact to follow up on a conversation,e.g book or course they recommended, phone number of mutual acquaintance, etc. I've always assumed men sent short FB messages for the same reason.



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28 Sep 2015, 8:52 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Go to Facebook, check your inbox, you see all those guys of your age range who are either friends, acquaintances, friends of friends who sent you "Hi/hello/Something" - to whom you probably replied very briefly or even never replied? (Not counting the total random strangers)

Those are your male admirers, guys who are interested to get to know you more :lol:.

Hurtloam, go check it now.


No, those are the guys that want to have sex with you and nothing else. True admirers don't operate like that. :wink:

Smart girls will fake a FB account, fill it with pictures of a super-hot model, sends a friend request from it to the guy that claims to admire her, and then if he takes the bait he is out. :mrgreen:



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28 Sep 2015, 8:54 am

DitavonTeeth wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
SwissPagan wrote:
guys are fodder to most women, so... like... why bother?

This is so untrue, don't generalize. It only applies to guys like us.


When I send a short FB message to a man I've recently become acquainted with, it doesn't necessarily mean I'm interested in him romantically (though it could, I guess). More often than not, I'll initiate contact to follow up on a conversation,e.g book or course they recommended, phone number of mutual acquaintance, etc. I've always assumed men sent short FB messages for the same reason.



However, when a man sends a short FB message to a woman....it's usually a different story.

I am talking in general of course; when I send a message about something to a woman who lives oceans away, of course it's not out of romantic interest - but when I message a local girl who gave me her fb contact in some event, that's usually out of romantic motif.

And I often hear women talking about how much messages they receive from guys on FB; I am certain that over 90% of them are out of romantic interest.

Never assume a man action to be equivalent of a woman action though; you would spare yourself a lot of surprises. Gender is strong in the brain, not just in the below parts.



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28 Sep 2015, 8:55 am

rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Go to Facebook, check your inbox, you see all those guys of your age range who are either friends, acquaintances, friends of friends who sent you "Hi/hello/Something" - to whom you probably replied very briefly or even never replied? (Not counting the total random strangers)

Those are your male admirers, guys who are interested to get to know you more :lol:.

Hurtloam, go check it now.


No, those are the guys that want to have sex with you and nothing else. True admirers don't operate like that. :wink:

Also, smart girls will fake a FB account, fill it with pictures of a super-hot model, send you a friend request from it, and then if you take the bait you are out. :mrgreen:


I am not talking about the FB scams.



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28 Sep 2015, 8:57 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am not talking about the FB scams.


FB scams? You mean that most guys are not seeking sex only? :lol:



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28 Sep 2015, 8:59 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
And I often hear women talking about how much messages they receive from guys on FB; I am certain that over 90% of them are out of romantic interest.


Going by the experiences of daugther, I'm certain that 90% of them are for sexual interest only, and maybe 10% of them are out of romantic interest.



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28 Sep 2015, 9:00 am

rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am not talking about the FB scams.


FB scams? You mean that most guys are not seeking sex only? :lol:


It could be, many guys may want sex only, that's for the receiver to evaluate -

also some women want sex only without appearing desperate, so this tip can be useful for them in that regard.



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28 Sep 2015, 9:32 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rdos wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I am not talking about the FB scams.


FB scams? You mean that most guys are not seeking sex only? :lol:


It could be, many guys may want sex only, that's for the receiver to evaluate -

also some women want sex only without appearing desperate, so this tip can be useful for them in that regard.


My FB privacy settings tight, so only friends of friends and individuals who have my email address can message me. I don't think I've ever received a message from a complete stranger and more often than not the messages I do receive are from people I've met, however briefly, in IRL. I've yet to be propositioned over FB and would simply block any guy who tried right off the bat.

I also don't believe 90% of the messages I receive from male acquaintances are the result of romantic interest. The messages are mostly information acquisition-related (carpool to softball, address of new store or restaurant, etc) and many of the men are married or on committed relationships.

My advice to men who are interested, would be to pick up the phone and call the girl rather than send her a six word FB message in the hope that she somehow divines that as a sign of interest.



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28 Sep 2015, 9:35 am

rdos wrote:
Smart girls will fake a FB account, fill it with pictures of a super-hot model, sends a friend request from it to the guy that claims to admire her, and then if he takes the bait he is out. :mrgreen:

There is nothing wrong in wanting to know other girls, even if you like a girl. Especially if you are not sure of her feelings for you or if she hasn't shown any particular interest in you yet.