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08 Oct 2015, 4:46 pm

I give up. It like women say to me it hard to find a guy like me but they don't like me. I find this rather suicidal to me because its so pointless and worthless to live in ongoing rejection lifestyle. Everything is an excuse.

What is did is wrong? Maybe I have to end myself because the reality is not deserving for me?



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08 Oct 2015, 8:01 pm

Ecomatt91 wrote:
I give up. It like women say to me it hard to find a guy like me but they don't like me. I find this rather suicidal to me because its so pointless and worthless to live in ongoing rejection lifestyle. Everything is an excuse.

What is did is wrong? Maybe I have to end myself because the reality is not deserving for me?


Yep . Welcome to life as a worthless man. Are you paid well? They want a well off moral man or just well of man not a poor moral man.



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08 Oct 2015, 8:04 pm

Ecomatt91 wrote:
I give up. It like women say to me it hard to find a guy like me but they don't like me. I find this rather suicidal to me because its so pointless and worthless to live in ongoing rejection lifestyle. Everything is an excuse.

What is did is wrong? Maybe I have to end myself because the reality is not deserving for me?


I thought you had 3 possibly good women. What happened?


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08 Oct 2015, 9:11 pm

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I'm glad everything is going well.

I don't believe a person is either a person of high moral values or a sociopath. Most people are in between those extremes.


Yes, it's a spectrum. High moral values and sociopathy are two opposite ends of the spectrum.


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08 Oct 2015, 11:18 pm

Many friends told me I need to change my approaching strategies and that. I don't understand this, because I thought I changed so many ways over the years of how I interact with people. This appears to be a major aspergers symptom of where I cannot change the way who I am because my brain is wired this way. It seems the only option to fix this is get a brain surgery and fix the wiring processes.



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09 Oct 2015, 1:34 am

nurseangela wrote:
Ecomatt91 wrote:
I give up. It like women say to me it hard to find a guy like me but they don't like me. I find this rather suicidal to me because its so pointless and worthless to live in ongoing rejection lifestyle. Everything is an excuse.

What is did is wrong? Maybe I have to end myself because the reality is not deserving for me?


I thought you had 3 possibly good women. What happened?


Yeah Ecomatt91, did you ask out any one of them?

Or you just realized they're mere acquaintances for now?

I think you were too dreaming ahead.



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09 Oct 2015, 10:39 am

Ecomatt91 wrote:
Many friends told me I need to change my approaching strategies and that. I don't understand this, because I thought I changed so many ways over the years of how I interact with people. This appears to be a major aspergers symptom of where I cannot change the way who I am because my brain is wired this way. It seems the only option to fix this is get a brain surgery and fix the wiring processes.


No, you are nowhere near out of options!

You could always try being honest with the plethora of therapists you have engaged and actually doing what the 11 therapists/programs tell you to do, rather than going through the motions and complaining that your unchanged actions are resulting an unchanged result (no friends, no dates) that you are very unhappy about.

You could take a little break from trying to date to focus on making friends. Proper friends, the kind you do stuff one-on-one with (vs acquaintances who turn up at the same meetups as you). The social skills to make friends are easier to learn (and also a perquisite for romantic relationships, the vast majority of the time) and successfully making friends will probably boost your confidence... so you'll be in far better shape to date afterwards.



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09 Oct 2015, 7:03 pm

I am always honest and it is from my perspective of what I do and that.

I never lie. I don't do white lies either.