Am I doing the correct thing?

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I'd text and give my number back at least at my most nervous point.

I guess I will keep things friendly for now. I don't know if I am overreacting or not.

I have reacted once somehow like him to a much older lady (around 50) who's "asking me out" because she wanna picks a trip reward she won but only given to a couple. I was like ... "ummm....and looked the other way".

And I don't even know her first name.

Hahahaha!

How do you think I should act around him from now on?

Ghost him.

Only say hi if you he bump into you eye to eye to not appear grudgy and to show him you're the better one.

Good idea.

Anyone else have more similar stories?

Funny enough, he thanked me for the email in person today in class. And he also talked to me a bit today after class. However, I still am keeping distance.

Why keep your distance? In your original post, you acknowledged his social difficulties and despite that, you wanted to be his friend. Yeah, his behavior may have appeared cold at times, but today, he seems to be reaching out to you and making an effort.

Like I said, he may just not be used to people being nice to him. I'd try and get closer gradually, see what happens. If you still like him in a romantic way after some time getting to know each other, let him know leave the ball in his court, see what he does with it.

You both are right. It is just that the way he acted kind of killed it for me. But I will give him a second chance and be his friend because I used to be like him too when I was extremely depressed.

Two stories come to mind: the first was in High School. I was looking for quiet friends who were like me: too normal to be weird and too weird to be normal. My mother mention she saw this guy who always seem to be alone walking to his car when she would pick me up. She mentioned he seemed very friendly and cleanly dressed. After I identified this guy I tried to befriend him. Bottom line is that he was ice cold and WANTED to be a loner.

I also tried befriending a female coworker in retail during my university days. She seemed quiet, polite and was great with customers. Sure she was overweight but I found her attractive, an ordinary girl next door so to speak. I tried to be extra nice to her by giving her a ride after night shifts and buying her a capuccino as those were her favourite. She never once said thank you and started treating me like I had the plague (and getting closer to other male coworkers). Turns out she was an arrogant, pompous jerk who thought she was better than me and wanted nothing to do with me. My mother is an expert judge of character is remains the only person she has met that fooled her.

Funny how I saw her on eHarmony twice and she still doesn't have a full time job or that relationship since apparently she claimed lots of men were interested in her and I wasnt good enough for me behind my back. That was satisfying!

Bottom line is most aspies like me are dense and need a female to initiate but being quiet or aspie does not mean they cannot be a cold, heartless jerk.