How do I kill my love for someone?

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You can't force it really, it just takes time. Keep yourself as busy as possible and don't spend any time looking at her facebook. As long as you keep her out of your mind the feelings will begin to fade.

Some people really fall for others they can't have. I hear it's sometimes why women are attracted to men already in relationships, though that's obviously not always the case.

Getting rid of your infatuation? My approach would be to logically, systematically destroy any reason as to why I should continue this infatuation. For example, I showed my interest, she explicitly said she wasn't interested. That's a large reason to stop being infatuated. Going off of this, I would tell myself, whenever the feeling flared up again, that there is not any hope for this to work because she is not interested.

Failing that, try and think of behaviors of hers that wouldn't work in certain situations. She showed up late to class? Would you trust her to go on a trip with you? Would she be late picking your kids up from school a lot? Things like that. Let the possible little things get to you.

Either way, good luck.

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You have to distract yourself and find someone new. This girl attracts those jerk like types because maybe she likes them? And if that is the case then that is her problem and her type is distasteful. Stop looking at her Facebook page. This is actually a positive to not having social media. The process of getting over someone may be quicker.

Immerse yourself in your interests.

I hate to says this, but it's best to postpone dating until you are an independent adult. That way dating won't get in the way of your future.

Then you might as well postpone everything not strictly needed to become an independent adult till you're one. No friends, no going out, no hobbies, no learning anything you won't use in your job. Besides, since you're going to be isolated and not even try to date, you don't need to take care of your physical shape. This way, nothing will get in the way of your future. Why eliminate only the threat posed by dating when you can get rid of 'em all?

And, of course, once you're finally an independent adult, you'll want to keep this non-lifestyle, so nothing gets in the way of your job.

I'm quite sensitive about this, because it's sort of the story of my life. The difference is I got desperate and ruined everything when I tried in vain to get permission to date from my parents. Nothing will ever make up to me for the loss of my teenage years and young adulthood without as much as a chance to approach a girl. I wish I could have tried, even if I'd have been rejected.

Exactly. It is healthy to be exposed to the opposite sex as a teenager and attempt to form social relationships with them.

If anything it is necessary for healthy relationships.

You've got to make mistakes, and you've got to learn from them, but you won't unless you try in the first place.

Even if you never got a girlfriend throughout high school at least you'd develop the social skills to be friends with a woman, something many aspie males here may be incapable of.

It is only a problem if it distracts the teen too much from their responsibilities.

That's true for anything, really. As a teen, adult, or child.

So as long as having friends/a girlfriend/maintaining your physical health/hobbies and interests/etc. isn't obsessive to the point that it interferes with your lifestyle, what's the problem?

I've currently got my second girlfriend, started dating her shortly before turning 17. I did this because of significant trial and error over my high school years, not shyly backing away and isolating myself in a dark little corner to spend my days depressed and on WP. Something a fair amount of us may resort to to feel better about life.

You have to balance everything.