i think i have feeling for someone not sure though

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ok so i will explain the scenario i was up late as usual two of my flat mates (one of them being the girl in question) were at a dance thing for their uni. the other one comes in absolutely drunk my reaction was are you alright but it turned to where is the other one (i called her by name but i rather not say it). i then found my self doing a vigil other the drunk one even though i made her a cup of tea searched what to do in that situation all i could think about was the other one. the strangest thing happened a little later i texted the other one to inform her of the situation only to have her text back that she had no way to get back. within a second i was on the internet trying to find where the event they went to was and by the time she messaged back i was half way there running full pelt. i like her as a friend any way but looking back at my reactions i am wondering if i had developed something else i was truthfully worried about her and was relived to see her.
i don't know what this means if i had the choice i would go out with her in a heart beat but i am at a loss any ideas
Rai

So you THINK you have FEELINGS for somebody. Sometimes I tell people not to think with their heart or feel with their brain.

true but i am still not sure. true i am a thinker but i am also driven by my instincts which i trust a great deal, on paper this would make my situation more easier but its the reverse

Yea I see what you are saying. Its not as complicated as we make it. I mean most date by starting as friends, or relationships that work. They just pick somebody and date them and let the love come.

I dont. I just hang out and have fun and then let the love come, if it comes.

I think if you are in love with somebody you will think about them nonstop and revolve your life around them. You cant get enough and its powerful and magical and all that stuff. Most are not really in love even though they think they are. So you dont have to be in love to date or kiss or whatever you want to do.

Personally as I said I think things work out better when you just let them work on their own.

I think if you are attracted to her let her know, but you arent meant to figure it out, you are meant to feel it out. Maybe you have to know you care to let yourself care more, maybe you will love her, maybe you wont. Just be you and see where it goes.

Also keep in mind if you date or just have sex and one of you isnt feeling it you will lose a friend. Thats why you gotta be friends before you can be lovers and then you gotta be lovers or you cant be friends.

Hi, based on what you've explained, it is likely you have formed a connection, or, have bonded with your flatmate to a degree. It is completely normal and natural, if she posseses characteristics that you find attractive and/or, if you have had possitive intrractions with one another, and in turn, have grown to care about her.

I understand what happened to you when you became concerned about your flatmate's well-being and relieved, once you saw her and could see that she was fine. This is a normal phenomenon if you have bonded with a person, and they have become important to you.

Becoming aware of the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing is absolutely vital. Staying calm and rational around your flatmate will be of utmost importance in terms of maintaing respect for one another, while sharing a home. The situation will require you to be mindful and conscious of your thoughts and feelings, so that you are able to maintain control and take care of yourself, as well. Trust the 'good instincts' that you possess. Perhaps your flatmate has developed some feelings for you, as well. Dont push anything. Let things flow as they may, and try not to allow your thoughts or feelings to get the best of you, as difficult as that might become.

I recommend doing some research regarding the feelings that you are experiencing, as you are not entirely familiar with what is taking place.

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well ill try that my flat mate is rather unique. when i first met i=her i thought she was autistic which would explain why i can read her very well. but after this amount of time 5 months to be exact i can read her enough to say that she is not autistic.